How do I bond and interact more with my 2 year old son please?

starlightlucy - I have just purchased Dr Phils book on family life and Dr Brazeltons book on child development I look forward to reading them, bought them on ebay last night. thanks for your advice hun.xxx

thelovedchild - thanks for the advice I happened to be in a charity shop yesterday and came across a mozart cd, so I left it on all nite for him in his room at a soothing volume. thankx again.xxx

and thanx to the rest of you too. much appreciated. xxx

You sound like you’re suffering from some sort of depression (not diagnosing online, but that would be my guess). Until you deal with the depression, teaching you how to interact with your child is not going to really help because that is not what your problem is. Depressed mothers often will not pick up cues from their children. Unless you’ve got some sort of developmental disorder where you have difficulty with communication and social relations, that’s not going to help. You’re missing them not because you dont know what they are, but because it very hard for you to pick them up in your state of mind. Depressed mothers will often also not maintain eye contact as much. And again, that is not because it is something you need to learn, but because when a person is depressed, they have a hard time interacting with others because it is so exhausting. There’s a lot of things that you probably even wont notice you’re not doing because of your mood. It is hard to learn how to do all these things if you’re depressed. But, if you work on your depression, it should fix itself. For the sake of your child, consider actually getting help from someone who is working with an evidence based practice (I.e. there’s research backing up their style of working)

think of your child hood give your son what you wanted…play with him comunicate and every night put on motes art he will grow up to be smart and you will be able to talk to him more often…

Dr Phil and Dr Brazelton have excellent books on this subject.

awww I bet its just the terrible twos

ok this is what id do…

id spend as much time with him as possible. IE take him for a hours walk in the pram, or for that extra bond hold the lil fella for the hour during the walk… go to the local park with a ball and just pass it to each other

when hes playing on his own, join in and talk to him… I know his speach wont be very good but ask him about what s hes doin, whats he drawing and/or what he has named his toys…

when your talking to him make sure your looking at him, eye contact is a very good way for a parent and child to bond

when its time for his bed… or 30 mins before and hes been gd.. tell him hes been a gd boy and deserves a treat and that he can watch a cartoon for 30 mins before bed..

hope you know what im gettting at out of that :)

Mozart do you mean? OK will try that. thanks thelovedchild

thank you starlightlucy I will look if theres any on ebay or amazon. very kind of you. Shemmy27 x