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How can I stop being so afraid of the way I talk?

am scare to talk to peoples cause of the fact of me having a impediment. and I get mad real quick when it come to someone saying something about it. even if it “ Slow down” that just tick me off to the point where I just want to punch them. so after so many years of peoples saying stuff I learned to stay away from peoples. when it come to school I don’t talk to no one not even the teacher 99% of the time when the teacher ask me a question I say I don’t know. Life just suck for me. I can’t show peoples how smart I am. 95% of my days is lonely ect. and things not getting no easier. I just hate that am scare to talk to peoples. nothing can make me more mad then when someone say something about my talking ability. peoples think it funny but it not funny when it you. then there just some Jack* out there who think they know how it like living like this even when they don’t. and that make me mad to. like I bet they don’t feel the pain that come with almost every day of my life. even with all this am still not gonna let my life go down the drain. am still gonna try to get a job in the fall or summer and I still going to college to try to get a career and prove everyone who said I can’t do it due to my impediment wrong. ( even tho I don’t know if college accept peoples with impediment or if there a career for it I hope so). but things would a lot easier if I can stop being so scare of what peoples might say to me when I talk. I met a couple of peoples who never said anything about it even when I do talk to them. ( which help me forget that I got it). but anyone know some good ways to stop being afraid??? ( -.- do not say go to a speech class to help me cause I took all the classes I can -.- so don’t say it)

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Answer #1

Well, I know you said that it makes you angry to hear people say that they know the feeling, but I guess you’ll have to be angry because I’m in the same boat. I have a lisp, not a major one, but it’s very annoying. when I talk to people, they only look at my mouth. And I know we all do that, but it’s very annoying and it gives you insecurities. I know what it feels like to avoid people. I know what it feels like to be the quiet and not so outspoken one. But, it’s something I have to deal with. Just remember: there’s someone always out there who has experienced worst. For example, there are people whho were born without legs, without arms, without feet, and, the worst one I seen, without a torso. But they live there lives and theyre full of energy. They can give a “rats a**” who talks about them, or look and stares.And, if you believe in God, just know that He created us each in our own special way. Everthing is done for a reason. Everyone looks a certain way for a reason. But we cant focus on the negatives about us because life is too short for that. Just keep your head up, and ignore what they say. And if colleges and jobs care about the way you talk, then obviously that college or job isn’t mean for you. :)

Answer #2

Don’t get mad when people make fun of it, if anyone hears them, their attention will probably be directed toward the jerk who said something and not your speech problem. As you get older, the more mature people your age will get, and they won’t care about it at all. Sure they will notice that you have a speech problem when you first start to talk, but then they will hear the content of what you are saying, and not what your voice sounds like. Anyone who knows you now probably already knows what you sound like, right? What difference will it make to them to hear you again? They already know, it’s not like they are going to change their opinion, whether it be the jerks who think you sound different or that they are the mature people who listen to the content of what you are saying and tune out your impediment.

Sorry if that was a bit confusing & good luck!

Answer #3

whats is impediment > ?

Answer #4

When i read this I start crying..because I have the same problem…Anthony…u shall go to college and apply yourself…I did..I graduate..it was not easy but I did it…God is so good…He helps us…but sometime it is hard to believe in that…when it comes to work and school. I pushed myself to go to college but after I graduated I stopping myself…I am so afraid…of being turn down because of my speech problem…..especial in the field that I got a degree in..But we can not let this impediment or any disabilty stop us. I am a minister..I do Bible study at my home, I do preaching also…I am out in the public alot…I also do drama…everything I do involves speaking and writing…Now Anthony, I am making progress..plus I am dealing with RA too. So please dont give up and dont give in!

Answer #5

Anthony…I get teary eyed reading or talking about your post. I myself have a speech impediment and I cant hear the way I sound…weird! Yeah..I am struggling with this still…but I had graduated from college,,,,preach….teach…perform…always in the public….All things are possible with Jesus! But I am not brave nor secure about my speech…I just got someone that keep pushing me to do more by encouraging me…You have that someone too..Yeah..It is Jesus! He speak through people, music, and whatever he uses to get your attention. He spoke to me through you..I was settleing for less but your statement about going to school encourage me….So keep pressing on! Dont give up or give in! Go to school and just do your best and let God do the rest!

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