How to discipline kids without spanking?

No offence to the previous two answers, but I disagree completely. Their is two steps that should be taken. One is punishment, the other is, positive reinforcement. Punishment requires giving something unpleasurable, or removing something pleasurable, as a result to the undesirable behaviour. Punishment can have a lot of consequences, which is why it’s important that other actions are taken as well. I can’t remember all the other actions that should be taken, except, the punishment should be given as close as possible in time, after the undesirable behaviour; and the punishment should be relevant to the undesirable behaviour: so don’t take a childs phone off them when the undesirable behaviour had nothing to do with that. Positive reinforcement involves the awarding of good behaviour. This is another action that helps avoid the negative results of punishment. If you award your childs desired behaviours, then they won’t feel like you only notice them when they do bad. I hope this helps

Well first of all here’s a good link for help to discipline your children =]

http://www.askdrsears.com/html/6/T060300.asp

-Set positive examples in the way you, the parent, act, and eliminating negative language (such as “don’t do that” and changing it to “Why don’t you do this instead).

-Instead of focusing on the negativity of discipine, focus on the positive. Instead of taking away entertainment and not letting them play with their friends try rewarding them if they do something good.

-Don’t expect these techniques to work on their own. You need to be an active participant in your child’s discipline. Sometimes this means just going and turn off the TV if your child won’t listen.

That’s if you don’t already do all of this which I’m probably sure you do =]

Well good luck and try researching some more on the net because there’s a lot fo infomation out there. =D

xxx

When I was younger my parents did 2 things to me.

1. They would give me hot sauce on the tounge ( just one drop ) and some bread on to stop some of the pain.
2. grounding always works. Take away any of there privlages such as computer, phone, any hanging out with friends, desserts and such.

=] I hope I helped kinda sorta.

Dear luv18, Of course you never spank a child…especially when they older children. 10 and 12 are tough ages, they are just getting a sense of Independence. The key is that they feel they have some control over what is happening to them. Children who feel out of control and feel they don’t have a say will act out. So giving choices is a great way to start. Of course it depends on what you are having trouble with??? Dr. Phil’s books are wonderful with exercises for the whole family. Just remember they feel they have lost control and need to feel in control. Sit down with them and make them a part of choices and consequences. Sue…good luck

Please be warned that putting hot sauce on a childs tounge is child abuse and you can/will loose your child for this. Sue

well do wut you did first. Keep them in there room for a long time. sounds mean, I mean dont torture them, just dont let them do anything fun, like if they ask for something say no. wut really bothers kids tho, if you ignore them, it bothers the hell outt of them. good luck :D

my mom just ground us from the thing we like to do best…like I like to go outside she will make me stay inside…it suxs

if you need disipline tips , try watching nanny 9-1-1 , the whole show is on disiplining your children without spanking , and try going on google and type in “ disipling my children without spanking “