How to help my friend who cuts her wrists?

My sister went through cutting & me I take classes every week for building self-confidence and how to help. Well the best thing you can do for her in the begining is just act normal and talk to her make her feel conterbale and if one day all of the sudden she gets really happy that means she might kill her self so just be with her make her feel like its okay 2 make mistakes

Shes probably going through something for her to cut! You should talk to her on tell her how good of a person she is. perhaps if you praise her with postitive comments it might make her feel better. She needs someone to talk to even if you just listen is enough to know someone does care. You could take her out more or spend time to take her mind off things might be enough to make her stop or confide in you!!

distract her. make her laugh. uhh… be wiff her more. that made me st0p hope I helped :D

lizzylovesyousomuch..that was one creepy answer lol

I have been through the same thing…cutting..there is no real way to stop her from doing that. and when she says it’s so hard to stop..it’s more than that. It’s almost addictive, it psychologically makes you think it helps you with your depression. As the others have said, you should spend as much time with her, distract her, get her mind off it. You have no idea, but what she’s thinking on a 24/7 basis is how she’s not good enough for anyone, she’s ugly, she’s fat, she’s not worthy, nobody likes her..etc..

Don’t make her feel bad IN ANY WAY about cutting herself..it’s all she can do..it’s like the one thing that gives her a sense of control, and it’s something she can’t really help unfortunately.

about..2 years ago…or maybe a year ago I cant really remember anymore… my best friend started cutting herself, she couldn’t stop, it was so hard for her…and I didnt understand…I was angry at her for doing that..which was just about the worst thing I could’ve done…I only made her feel worse I think…but I really did love her, she was/ is such a wonderful person.

So after about the third time doing it, I started to panic..and I HAD to find a way to stop her from doing that..then I figured it out.

I told her if she did it again…I would cut myself aswell…this is a bit extreme I know, but I cared for her a lot. she didnt believe me, and when she did it again…I came into school with my wrist covered in cuts. I’d share the pain with her, maybe this didnt make her feel so alone..I never really knew…but I knew that she cared about me a lot too…so she didnt want me to do this…so she stopped.

I’m not telling you to do this AT ALL! Don’t worry! lol But if you care about someone as much to do that, it works.

Otherwise all I can say is, make her feel special, make little comments like “I love the way you did that with your hair” or “..you look pretty today”. it may seem like it has no effect but those little things stay. My family knows about me cutting myself, but they havnt done anything. lol

Well I know this is a really hard situation, but I just want you to know that you’re handling it really well. But it’s understandable that she doesn’t call you until after because she probably doesn’t want you to feel burdened because of what she’s doing to herself. But I think if you really want to help her, then you’re going to have to get in her face about it and ask questions all of the time. I know she may get mad or act annoyed, but trust me, she’ll feel good because she’ll know that you care.

I went throgh the same thing. I used to cut mself. I was cutting for about a year or so. Eventually I stpped because my friends helped me through and I started to focus on other things. Do not make her feel bad in any way. Try and encourage her to take on a new hobby or something that you can do together. When she says she can’t stop, she really can’t. it is just like an addiction. If all else fails try giving her a hameer and a plank of wood. if she needs to be alone she can spend her time hitting the plank instead of hurting herself

just letting her know that you are there is probaly helping to be honest! I cut and it is so hard to stop I cant , but I’ve got someone who is there to talk and yeah that dosent always help but its nice to see that someone cares! try talking to her not about the cutting but why she is cutting! just dont tell her to stop in a harsh way it dosent work the last thing she needs is lectures trust me they dont help they just make things worse! xxXxx

im going through the same thing with my best friend, and I geuss all you can do is tell her its dangeruos, and you love her to much watch her hurt herself, and that their are better ways to express herself like talking to her friends, and if that doesnt work try giving rubber bands I know it sounds weird but when she gets streesed all she has to do is snap them agianst her wrist.that way she gets the pain feeling she wants but its a lesser chance of hurting her so bad shes in the hospital.