How to help my friend who cuts herself?

The best thing to do is to help her deal with the problems and issues she has - they’re the reason for her cutting. Help with them, and you help with the cutting. Otherwise, any other “solutions” are just an “Ambulance at the bottom of a cliff” solution - she still has the problems, she’ll just use a different outlet. You need to help build the fence at the top of the cliff instead, so she doesn’t need an outlet.

tell her that what ever it is that is bothering her tell someone before she hurts herself to and that you will be thwere for her no mater what

Do NOT tell her “everything will be okay” or anything of the sort. Most of the time that is not what anyone who cuts themselves wants to feel. Obviously if they’re cutting themselves they feel pretty much hopeless, etc. Just be be there for her when she needs someone to listen, or just sit with. Let her know you care and don’t tell her to stop doing it or make her promise to stop it. Cutting is an addiction. Telling someone who cuts to stop is like telling someone whos addicted to drugs to stop. Well, most of the time anyway. J Just be there for her no matter what. I don’t know your friend, or if she has any mental diorders and what not. If she gets mad she probably isn’t and sometimes emotions can’t be controled and people say things they don’t mean. I know this will help somewhat, considering I’ve been slicing myself up for years.