How do I tell my 13 year old daughter that I know that she is not telling the truth and that she can learn from it?

Instead of getting mad or accusing her of lieing, try letting her know that she can talk to you about stuff, that she doesnt need to lie. That she can tell you anything.

I wish it were not this complected. I often feel sorry after I yell at her. The reality has scared me. Am I worried too much?

give an example of what could happen if she doesnt tell the truth :3 it could probably scare her into doing the right thing ^_^

I think it’s totally normal to worry about her, every parent does. Just let her do her thing even though you know she’s lying, some day soon whatever she’s lying about will get her into trouble and you’ll be there for her.

When someone is lying, they hate to have their bluff called. It usually makes them mad. Two people mad at the same time never works, however, I wouldn’t let her get away with lying. Let her know that you know she isn’t being honest and hopefully the two of you can talk about whatever it is. Just don’t lose your cool. Let her do that, she’s the kid. You will get get more respect from her and have a better chance of her listening to you if you keep your composure.

Ignore her or just agree. As i was 13, i felt like my parents were soo so cruel to me when they didnt believe me. Even i it eas a small lie. But i felt they appreciated me when they sympathized with me even tho they didnt believe me. I was really happy about that. Maybe you should try to go with the flow and see what happens.

try talking to her as a friend and not a mum, first talk about clothes,new music, become her friend then she will start to tell you stuff and instead of talking to you as a mother she will talk to you as a friend that she trusts in. therefore she won’t lie to you.