Would you end a perfect relationship if you found out they were a skinhead?

Let’s say you met someone, they are a perfect match for you. You really care for them. You are pretty sure you are falling in love with them. One day you find out they are a skinhead(nazi,white suprimicist, etc.).

Would you continue the relationship with them?

What if it was just a friend, and you found out one day. Would you continue the friendship?

Answer #1

Personally if your Ok with your fiance’s beliefs than I wouldn’t worry about what other people have to say, just ignore them for being closed minded. Your fiances beliefs I could never share, and if I was in your shoes, I would have to do some serious soul searching when I found out that those are his beliefs. For me it would depend a lot on how I found out, was he honest about it/ Did he tell you on his own etc… Those things would make a big difference to me.

As for your son, I think he will form some of his beliefs around his parents beliefs, just because that’s what kids do, and kids are very perceptive to how there parents feel about something.

Anyway good luck in whatever you do, but please don’t let other people influence you on this, it should be your choice, and you need to be happy with what ever you choose.

Answer #2

I’m just curious. I’m having a rough time with some friends and family about my fiance being a skinhead (thank god he doesn’t shave his head though.) I personally dont see a problem with it, but they dont think that I should be with someone like him. There concerned for my son, because they are scared he will teach him to be like he is. Which we have already talked about. We refuse to teach our son any of our beliefs, I want him to have his own and not be lead into anything by anybody else. I guess I was just wondering what other people though about it. I dont see the problem, but I’m tired of hearing sh*t about it.

Answer #3

As long as he treats you right and your son right then I don’t see anything wrong with it.

Answer #4

doesnt matter, if I really fell in love with a nazi girl (as long as she aint no skinhead, I like hair) then id be alright with whatever she believes, though that wouldnt be much of a problem since…uhm… nevermind…somethings are better kept locked… O_O

Answer #5

I actually lived this situation myself.

I had a good friend who was a neo-nazi, and me (being Buddhist) was hardpressed to remain friends.

We did stay friends, though, and it was understood that our beliefs were to remain our own and we would not speak of them with each other. I didn’t condone his ideals, but he was a very good friend nonetheless.

Sometimes, we have to put differences aside in order to see the person inside.

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