Is It wierd that im grieving over 2 people who weren't born, but died before?

awww :( ok, because my mum just told me that a few years ago she wouldve been having my baby twin brothers/sisters and its upset me and made me thiink of how different my life wouldve been…

it makes sense. and i dont think it is weird. i would prob feel a little sad about it to.

It’s normal to feel like this, but it’s also something that happened years ago, and you shouldn’t let it get you down too much. In most cases, when a woman has a miscarriage, it means that the baby(ies) were not strong and healthy and would have most probably had something wrong with them had they survived.

yh, im trying not to let it take over and try and forget about it, and it was quite a long time ago… and its not just that the babies died but how much my life wouldve changed ://

it’s normal. Don’t let it get to you, but on the contrary, don’t disallow yourself to mourn. Mourning is a natural part of life. Did you allow yourself when you first found out? If you never allowed yourself to mourn it out before, it could be the reason why it’s coming back now as well.

It’s better to look to the future, than to think ‘what if’. If all we thought about were ‘what ifs’ we’d never be happy and we’d always be wondering.

i’ve felt the same way when my momma told me that i had an older sibling that was a miscarriage…it makes me wonder what it would have been and sometimes i get a little sad thinking about it but it’s perfectly normal.

not at all… i cried when my mom banned me from sponge bob… he’s not even real..i love him though… if you love something or can’t wait for it to be born then i think that you can be sad about it and if other people think thats stupid then they are insensitive little jerks.

No it’s not weird. You can develop a bond with almost anything and anyone, even one who wasn’t born. Anytime you feel a bond or love for something and that thing gets taken away it’s natural to feel sad and grieve.

awww i love spponge bob too high five and ah thanks and im glad im not the only one :P

yeah… thanks for all your help :)

no. to me, its fine. you never had a chance to meet them.