How am I supposed to cheer up when my cousin dies?

Honestly, There is no easy or quick way to get over it or cheer up. This is a huge thing for you and your whole family to deal with. You may feel like people have forgotten about her because it was 2 years ago, but whats more likely is that people are too upset to talk about it. When my father died, I thought people didn’t care because they just went back into daily routines and didn’t seem to make it into a big deal. I was 12 years old at the time and didn’t really understand why people ‘didn’t care’. Now, I know that its because people try and put the situation behind them and move on because its too painful to talk about.

I think it is really good to visit her grave, I’ve never seen my father’s grave. I wish I could but its not around where I live. Make sure you don’t leave her out of your life. It will be hard and painful but you need to visit her grave and talk to her, and talk openly about her to family. You need to be able to talk about her without crying, and you need to remember all the good memories you have with her. I know that sounds cliche, but it really is true.

You could organize a remembrance evening for all of her school friends that were close to her, and all of your family. It will be upsetting but it will give you closure. Just to see all of these people caring about her, and remembering her. Just sit around casually and tell stories about her to each other. Everybody could bring a photo and you could all stick them on a photo board and hang it up somewhere. Either your house, your church (if you go to church..) or give it to her parents- They will appreciate it very much.

My thoughts go out to you, this is a hard thing to go through. When you and your siblings are older, hopefully you will be able to talk about her freely and laugh about the fun times you all had. Hope I helped xx.