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Why is my girlfriend pushing me away?

well I leave for afghanistan in april and my girlfriend says shes trying to spend less time with me so when the time comes for me to leave, it wont hurt as bad when im gone. is it normal? do you think it would be better to spend more or less time together?

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Answer #1

I think that her reaction is normal, in a sense. It’s hard to have someone you love leave, especially when you’re so used to having them around. You have to try to learn to live without them, even in times where you need them the most. It can get lonely, especially if you don’t know what to do. The void is not as easy to fill, you know?

For me, I suppose I wouldn’t really be able to do what she is. Since she’s spacing herself from you now even though you’re there, it most likely hurts her a lot. It’s tough to do, regardless of when she has to. I’m not really so sure that when you leave will be any different pain wise, so I can’t really say that what she’s doing is for the best. How do you feel about it, though? What do you want?

If you’re not really okay with this, perhaps it’s something you should talk to your girlfriend about. If you want to make the best of the time you both have left together, let her know that. Express your concerns and feelings.

By talking, perhaps you can change some of this.

Answer #2

I have been that girl before and for some girls its just hard to accept that their boyfriend isnt going to be around..maybe you guys can pull through it…how long will you be gone? if you need more advice feel free to message me

Answer #3

I think it’s gud and bad. I mean I completly understand what sh’es doing because I do the same thing. however I kinda started think all the what if’s. and if something did happen and I was trying to avoid you so didn’t get hurt as bad, I think it’d be even worse and I wud regret it more than anything. so yhea both gud and bad. mayb if you explain to her what you think it cud help?? gud luck!!

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