Why does my boyfriend's mother hate me?

My grandparents hate my mother. They’ve been married 26 years. Not much you can do about this. Stop expecting. Stop expecting her to like you. Stop expecting her to say thank you. Stop expecting common courtesy. Just stop expecting. And talk to your fiance. Because you’re right. This is not going to get better once your married. So decide. If he doesnt change, can you deal with him being the way he is with his mother? Because if you cant, then maybe this isnt the right relationship for you. As for his mother, let it go. B*tchy mother-in-laws dont change.

There isnt much you can do your going to have to get your boyfriend to talk to her and for him to tell her your not ok with this. My mom is the same way she didnt like my girlfriend so I went up and told her straight that its not ok that I love her and she would hve to learn to be ok with that and now everything is fine.

Hey , I no what you are going through its ridiculous my boyfriend also father of our 2 year old is a mammas boy. we been together for 3 years and known eatchother since we were 8 years old. I thought his mom and I were okay until mother foud out we were dating and I was pregnant she showed up at my house and took me to mc donalds and was talking to me about how me and her son our going to ruien our lives but she gave birth to my boyfriend when she was 19 aswell! she also talked about abortion and even had the audacity to verbally tell me an abortion clinics address, after the talk she told me not to tell her son, but of course I did. His mother never liked me, she hates me and there is no logical reason, shes says its because when I used to come over I would say hi to her but not start a conversation, which is false because we’ve had confersations before..I think its cause “i took her son from her” she talks a lot of crap to her family members about me and does anything and everything in her will to keep her son away from me by telling him how I will leave him for someone better looking with more money and how im a bad influence to him and will get him in trouble one day, how im rude and im going to be a bad house wife because I wouldnt clean his room. thats not my job expecially if its your house and his room. she calls him more then I do and she always wants him to go everywhere with her or help her out all the time, mind you she has a husband and a younger son and daughter. dont no why all her attention is set on her son and my life, more then her own family! this women has even went out of her way to introduce my boyfriend to her friend that is 21 and would say how she likes her better and how the girl reminds her of herself when she was her age, and how she says she is a nice girl unlike me. my boyfriend does not stand up for me he stands up for her and her negativity, there was an incodent where she thought she new more about parentig and trying to tell us what to do, my daughter was 4 months old at the time and she would let her sleep on her tummy over night when she babysat and I told her I was not comfertable with that and she hung up on me, so when we went over to her house to pick up my daughter she started yelling at me and it got to the point where she came out of no where and tried to choke me like WTF!! and she has the nerve to go around telling people that im crazy or psycho, she hates the fact that we are together and I just dont understand it..im getting sick of her and my boyfriend not sayin anything, she treats him like hes 12 years old and we are both 23. any how girl I deff feel your pain and all I can say is YOU shouldnt be the one to confront her or apologize your man needs to grow up and defend his women because his mother is wrong and she needs to let go of her grown son and encourage her son to be with you and be a good father and boyfriend/husband to you. very disrespectfully it sickens me