My boyfriends mom hates me and I hate her.

I’ve been with my boyfriend, since I was 14, and I’ll be 19 next month. And his mother, step-father and brother absolutly hate me. His parents moved out of the state shortly after him and I started dating. He had to move out of the state to finish his last year of high school, after he graduated he moved back and lived with my parents and I for 2 1/2 years. After I graduated, I moved a thousand miles away with him to stay with him and his parents. I cheated on him a year ago because I couldn’t take him and his family any more. His step-father is very abusive both mentally and physically, his brother is an ungrateful, immature child who has an anger problem, and his mother is just a b*. She never liked me from day one. And recently she threw me out of the house because my boyfriend and his brother were arguing over my x-box and I told his brother to grab it out of his room, since it was mine. Well, his brother put his hands on me and neadless to say it’s my fault why they argued because according to her I had no right to say anything. His mother is constantly talking badly about me, and I don’t know what to do. I plan on having children someday but how would that be when I hate my boyfriends mother and she hates me. I won’t even go back to their house because of how crazy she is and her husband has been brought up on rape charges. The whole family is just a mess. What should I do?? Should I try and make things work with my boyfriend and I or should I just call it quits?? He didn’t even stick up for me when his mother called me a bunch of rude and inappropiate things, and many other, including threatning me after I made the desicion to leave her house…

Answer #1

Believe me I know how you feel , I am in the exact same situation if not worse.I have been with my boyfriend since 17 and I am 22 now the hole and I mean entire family hates me I have even been in physycal fights with them, terible .horrible arguments with his mother and real nasty words were exchanged and he does not always stand up for me too. It is difficult when you are in a situation like this , I do not even speak to any one of his family members nor will I ever , ever put my food in their property. I would love to say cut your losses and move on. But at the end you need to sit down and determine if you realy love this guy and are you willing to put up with him and that is all all of him his family “messed up” family to.Sometimes you would have to be the bigger or should I say smaller person and go and ask for forgiveness even if you are not in the wrong but just for peace sake. For your relationship no one would like their partner to be treated badly by your family nor would you like your partner to be rude with your family. So I would say go to him tell him how you feel and come to some agreement then if your agreement is to give this another shot go together go his family and talk things through (even if it means you have to appologies) But whats important is that you are absolutly sure that is what you want. As women we deserve to be loved and appreciated if after this it does not work girl move on. you deserve happiness know that you are a graet person and you can be happy . you are still very young. I wish you all the best good luck

Answer #2

I think you shud work things out because imagine how your boyfriend feels! your dating him your not dating his family so go along with your relationship and don’t worry about his b*tchy mother just think about your feelings fer him :)

Answer #3

I would leave. If he cant stand up for you then whats the point? I know it’s his mom and everything, but still. His mom can’t disrespect the woman in his life and you can’t respect her…and from what it sounds like, you aren’t. I wouldn’t keep wasting your time on him. Sorry, I know it sucks. But you deserve wayyy better

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