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Mum hates my boyfriend

my mum hates my boyfriend how do I make her like him ?

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Answer #1

Rule number one in life, you cannot make another person do anything… especially change their mind… trying to do this is just going to end up with everyone being frustrated. This does not mean that your mother will not change her mind. It does not mean there are not things you can do that would probably facilitate this happening. It just means you cannot MAKE your mother think differently. Yes there is a point to this. If you approach this from an attitude where you arent convinced you’re right and she has to see that, I wil bet you will get a lot further. Talk to her. Tell her that you know she wants the best for you and you know she is just looking out for you. You really do like this guy, (DO NOT say she doesnt really know him, that wont help the situation), and you do not want your relationship with him to affect your relationship with her. You would like it if she got to know him better, and spent some time with him. After that you’d be willing to talk to her about why she doesnt like him (concrete reasons to how she feels) and you can talk about why you like him (remember, use “I” statements, I feel, I think, vs. you never or you always..)

Answer #2

I know why she hates him she thinks he is a “loser”

Answer #3

Get a chance for you all to sit down and get him to open up about what his goals are in life and how he plans to accomplish them. When I was in high school my girlfriend’s parents loved me because I wasnt afraid to sit down and talk to them. I told them what my plans were in life as well as my backup plans. Many times this happens because there is no communication and you mother knows just how tough the world is and how a cocky additude can cause a disastorus future. Good luck and G-d Bless, btw a good hair cut helps too.

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