Why am I still lonely when I am in a relationship?

I have been with a guy for almost a year, and on my end it has been on and off. He treats me good but yet I still feel lonely. I was talking to one person I dated about it and he asked if I am lonely with this guy why am I still with him? I said cause I would be more lonely if I was not. I asked him “ dont you ever get lonely” and he said yeah but he dosent need to be with someone just cause he is lonely. Which to me dosent make sense. I am sad because I just dont know whats making me lonely when I am in a relationship, and I am scared to end it because I dont want to be alone. :( Anyone have advice or been in the same situation?

Answer #1

I know what you mean, I feel the same way. But this is mainly because my boyfriend goes away a lot or we are always with his friends so I don’t get QT. I guess you have to ask yourself whether short term, extra-strength loneliness if you broke up with him could lead to getting rid of loneliness in the future, if you met a guy who you could really feel at home with.

Loneliness sucks :(

Answer #2

Does he show as much effection towards you as you do to him? Does he make you laugh? And in my opinion a relationship should feel like you guys are best friends and can talk to each other about anything.

If he doesn’t fill in those statements… then I guess you’ll have to make the decision in which to break up with him, no matter how hard it is.

I hope it all works out for you :)

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