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What to do about alcoholic mother and moving out?

My mother has always drank- going out on weekends and what not. And I did not mind that, as she needs a social life too. For the past few months, the drinking has come to drinking during the week too.. Sometimes 1-2 whole bottles of wine a night. (Usually every other night) She says she doesnt get drunk- Ha yeah right. We had a big fight the other day. My step father was about to leave. She came home from work completly gone one night. During our fight she said she needs alcohol to relax. I told her she has a problem. If my step father leaves, I want out too. I’ve put up with too many of my mothers relationships. And the alcohol is really starting to get to me. Every time I get attached to her “love” they leave. Four years shes been with this guy. I cant do it anymore. I’ll be 17 in a few months. I have a 13 year old brother, and a 3 year old sister. I live in Pennsylvania. I do not have a good relationship with my biolgical father, so living with him is out of the picture. How can I tell my mother I do not want to live with her anymore.. without her exploading? And am I legally able to move out of my mothers house?

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Answer #1

Will your step father take you in??

If yes then problem solved. Talk to him and let him know that you want out of there to, just tell him that you cannot do it anymore. But if you can’t take it anymore and your step dad wont take you in then chield protective services is the answer… I hate that name too but in some cases is the best thing. 1800-4-A-CHILD.

GOOD LUCK:)

Answer #2

She does have a problem. I suppose you could call the child abuse hotline. Not only for your sake, but your sister’s sake who is going to be in that house for the next 15 years unless your step-father takes her. I dont know about the moving out part. You could ask them about that.

http://www.dpw.state.pa.us/ServicesPRograms/ChildWelfare/

Answer #3

Go to Ala-Teen or Ala-Non. Call them up today. Now. Look in the phone book for Alcoholics Anonymous and tell whoever answers your situation. They will even give you a ride if necessary.

The two organizations are for people who are friends and family of alcoholics. They will help you understand what needs to be done. And as an important side note, this might convince your Mother to seek help for herself. And see if your step-father would also be willing to attend Ala-Non. That would be ideal.

But first you must help yourself. And the people at those meetings can help you with what to do concerning your siblings.

Good Luck!!

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