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What should I write to her to see if she's my birth mother?

I am a 15 year old girl and decided to find a way to get in touch with my birth mother.I started doing some research and already found out some things.I know where she lived exactly when I was born,where her parents currently live,what kind of job she has now(biology teacher) and I think she is married to a priest.and I know her maiden name.and she knows who is my adoptive family and in which town I live.but I’m not sure if she lives in the same town she did when I was born.but if she still does,then it’s close to the town in which I live.I started searching for her on sites like hi5,my space,face book and found one profile that I suspect it might be hers.I’d like to add that person in my friends list and send her a message,but don’t really know what to write her,as I can’t be sure if that woman is really her.I really don’t know what to write to that woman,but I need to find out if she is my birth mother.what should I ask her?what should I write to her?should I talk to her in a direct manner or be subtle about what I want to find out from her?I really need some good ideas and tips,as I don’t want to scare that person and of course I’d like her to reply.please help me,I would really appreciate it!

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Answer #1

You should message the lady you think is her and say something like, sorry to bother you but are you (insert name and maiden name here) and did you live in (insert town here) 15 years ago? if she says yes, then you can ask her a bit more personal questions like were you (insert age here) at the time? (ps you can find out her age off her profile, then subtract 15 years to find her age when she gave birth to you if you don’t already know her age.)

You don’t want to come straight in with like hi I think im your daughter. and you also don’t want to drag the conversations out too long before you tell her you might be her daughter. she might either loose interest and stop replying or report abuse. (just think about it, strange 15 year old girl asking where she lives??? lol).

You should talk to your adoptive parents though. They might be very hurt if you go off and find her on your own. Just sit them down and say that you are just curious about your birth mother. don’t let them think you are going to find her and run off with her, just say you would like to get in contact with her just to see what shes like. who knows, they might have her address and number!

Good luck x.

Answer #2

You should just ask some questions, and talk to her like she was a friend and then get into the serious questions

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