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What's the REAL reason why he won't go down on me?

I’ve been with this guy for about 4 months. He was all about me from the start. We had sex alll the time at the beginning and it has deteriorated slowly since a month into our relationship…but that’s another problem entirely. Anyway, he’s only gone down on ONE other girl he was with for 4 years (his only “real” girlfriend) and even that was only once for about 10 seconds. I asked him to go down on me like a couple months ago, and he kinda hesitated but he did it..for about 10 seconds.. then stopped. I never knew why. Then when I asked him why he doesn’t go down on me he said because he’s not experienced. I told him it’s not a problem and that when he was doing it to me..even if it was only for a few seconds…it felt really good and I wanted him to keep doing it. But whenever I ask him to do it, he looks at me like I have a third eye and kinda blows it off or just sits there looking annoyed and being quiet and NOT going down on me. I’ve never had this problem with anyone else. It’s always been the guy who wanted to continue to go down on me and me who didn’t want it much. I don’t really like oral sex, but for some reason this guy is different. I think because he’s so inexperienced and shy about it, it makes me want him to do it like crazy. Is he really just “inexperienced”? Or is he making up excuses for some other reason he’s not telling me? because how is he ever gonna GET experienced if he never practices with me??

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Answer #1

See this whole thing really sucks because he’s the best guy in every other aspect. He’s always cuddling with me and hugging me and kissing (no tongue lol)me and telling me he loves me. He’s not a bad guy but when it comes to anything to do with sex he gets all “I don’t know” or “Why does everything have to be about sex?”. And when I try and explain to him that sex is important to me, but that I’m not USIN him for sex, it just makes me look like a pervert no matter how I word it lol…and then we just go right back to the beginning. Like he doesn’t care. He still won’t initiate it, ask for it, and he basically doesn’t care about it anymore. I told him one time that I’m never gonna have sex again because there’s too many problems involved with it and he said “Why would you do that” and then he said “You say I could go without ever having sex again but you’re wrong”…then I broke down and asked him to do it a few days later lol. I’m such a sucker.

Answer #2

Just don’t force the poor thing.Maybe he just finds it disgusting to go down on someone.In time he will probably do it but till then let hi be.

Answer #3

So you dont like giving oral sex? Well you cant expect your partner to give YOU oral sex when you dont give him oral sex. Some men just dont like to give oral sex. Every guy is different. If he only ever went down on his ex girlfriend once for 10secs..doesnt that show he doesnt enjoy it? Its not any personal… like hygiene. If you are ALWAYS asking him to do it, he’s going to feel pressured. I mean, if you didnt want to do something that your partner wanted you to do, you would get annoyed wouldnt you? Come on, admit it. I think if he isnt comfortable in doing it… then you should accept that. If its just because he’s inexperienced, you need to talk to him, IN A CALM WAY and explain that you really dont care. Let him know you really enjoy it and that you know that he will be great at it. But personally, I dont think you should expect oral sex when you dont give it either.

Answer #4

I can understand where you are coming from. I really do. If he finishes fast, you dont have time to orgasm. But an orgasm shouldnt be the goal of sex. Talk to him. You need to make him understand your sexual needs. When you are in a relationship, sex is also an important factor. Not the most important but still important. If he continues to change and make you feel like ugly and such Maybe you should consider ending the relationship

Answer #5

LOL no, I DO give him oral sex all the time. He does like that. That’s about it though. And when we have sex he finishes pretty fast and if I ask him for it the next day he just isn’t interested…so I’m starting to think he doesn’t care much about my sexual needs. About the going down on me thing..I don’t ask him ALL the time…but when I do he just doesn’t want to. Ever. How can there be so many things a guy doesn’t want to do with a girl he is supposedly obsessed and in love with? (He’s made jokes about being “mildly obsessed” with me and tells me all the time that he loves me), He makes me feel ugly and unwanted.

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