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Why won't she be intimate with me?

G’day guys,

              I've met a girl who I have now known for about 1 year. I liked her as soon as I set my eyes on her, was and am so in love. At the time though my brother liked her (he doesn't now) so I didn't pursue anything, I ended up getting a girlfriend during this time, which is now over. So finally I got the courage up and I am chasing her so to speak, trouble is she knows my past, I've slept with quite a few girls of which I am not proud of and I feel this may be a factor (though not the main one) in the reason why she will not be intimate. In school she was quite a trouble maker, a bit of a rebel but now she is a lot quieter. Anyway she will kiss me sometimes, she will also tickle me a lot... sometimes she runs her fingertips on my back but she will not do anything sexual. She is not religous at all and she is 22. her longest relationship was 5 months, I ask her, why she won't be with me, and she always says I don't know or deflects the question... she never does anything first either... I will always have to kiss her... or if I say do you like me she will say "do you like me?"... I feel she is afraid of being intimate as she is 22... though I cannot figure out why, I have tried asking this question many times though I never get a real answer... does anyone know what may be up? if you need more info feel free to ask. Tom
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Answer #1

maybe she isnt comfortable with being sexual with anyone at all. its probably not you.. guys dont realize that we get nervous that we won be good or will do somethin wrong or embarrass ourselves while being intimate with a person for the 1st time.. after the 1st time its smooth sailing.. and maybe she isnt sure about your commitment to her.. you need to show her your not gonna leave her after you guys are intimate.. a lot and I mean a lot of guys do that.. I’ve had that happen to me before.. it was the worst feeling ever to be used.. but you just need to make sure she is comfortable with you and give her some time.. just hang in there:)

Answer #2

won’t go down giver her a quick drown

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