What is wrong about a 15 year old going out with a 19 year old?

Im a 15 year old male and live in the u.k. Recently I have fallen in love with this girl in my class, I believe shes perfect for me and when I got her number I started to get to know her. Then she dropped a bombshell. When I was talking about previous girlfriends I casually asked her if she was single and she then said she had a 19 year old boyfriend and had been going out with him for 2 years. When I first heard about this I thought it was wrong but didnt say anything. Recently I asked her to prom and she said yes, since then I consider her as one of my bestfriends and when talking to her other friends I found out that most of them dont like the idea of a 4 year age gap in a relationship, they also told me they dont like her boyfriend and believe ill be a better match for her since we have a lot in common with each other. Then last week she came to me crying saying that she had just got out of a big arguement with her boyfriend and that this arguing has been going on for over a month. When hearing this I suggested ending the relationship and she answered that she loved him and didnt want to end it. This confused me becuase lately she had been telling me that she thought I was one of the only genuine guys around. Anyway im confused becuase I dont know weither the tell her about the wya I feel or just keep it to myself and see what happens with her boyfirend. In ther end I dont like her boyfriend and believe he is wrong for her, but I still hope shes happy even though it might not ever be with me. What should I do?

Answer #1

I am 15 and had relations with guys 16,18,20 and 21. it is okay. just you can get in troouble if you are the older person.

Answer #2

I think if you guys have the right connection then its meant to be… and age is just a number, you cant help who you fall for… like when she gets older it wont be as bad

Answer #3

I say, wait it out a little for her to figure out everything with her boyfriend. if you stick to being your best for her. she’ll come around to notice it. especially if you are there during her hard times. Its a big help that all her friends like you. because they’d always encourage you two getting together and theyd be putting in a good word for you. Hang in there. if theyve been arguing a lot recently you know that they are getting closer to the end of it all. unless they are super mature, have strong strong feelings, and are completely dedicated to the relationship..then they have the possibitlity of working it out. and you would have been wasting your time. (“Never ever give up on something thats attached to your heart”)

Answer #4

@chelle01 thanks I think thats the advice I needed..big help :)

Answer #5

nothing you can do about it. if she likes the person she is with then its a bit tough, to be honest.

Answer #6

I don’t think its a big deal I mean im 16 and I have dated guys from 18 to 26

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