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How to manage going back to school after almost being raped?

This guy has been stalking me at school and today he came up and talked to me. He seemed really cool; he was the shy type. I told him I needed to go home and he said no. I kinda laughed and said “No seriously I have to be home in 10 mins. Bye.” And I started walking; he followed me. I knew he was so I walked to the CVS by my house and then I ditched him there. Well, I didn’t ditch him. 

 I went behind a wall for a short cut and he was there. I said " Ummm...are you following me?" He said "Hell yeah who wouldn't follow you." At that time he moved closer and pulled me close to him. I pushed him away and told him not to touch me. He grabbed me and pinned me up against the wall by my wrists. I yelled at him to get off me but he didn't listen. =/
 I spit in his face and he...he hit me. Full out punch in the face. ='[ I glared back at him and I just lost control. I started kicking and screaming and just doing everything I could to get him off of me. I managed to get free but only for a second. He tackled me to the ground and...He tried to...='[ He tried to get my pants off but I kept moving and he hit me again...=/ 
 I just gave up and stopped screaming and moving because he was stronger then me. Something made me realize that I needed to fight back. I'm not sure what. but he wasn't holding my wrists because I stopped fighting back so I reached up and hit him in the face. He freaked out and I pushed him off grabbed my stuff and ran...

How the hell am I supposed to go to school now? I…I see him in the hallway all the time…=’[ How am I supposed to cope with this again??? =’[ Help?

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Answer #1

FIRST OFF you were VERY brave to fight back, not many girls now days do this, usually because unfortunantly a lot of guys are stronger than them, but that doesnt mean you cant fight back and win, so remember that you were very brave in that situation

now, what happened was in NO way your fault,he was following you and stalking you, he has no right to do that, and no right to touch you or tell you to stay put when you dont want to, so what happened is entirely his fault

now, he NEEDS to be punnished for what hes done, because it was illegal, he attempted to rape you (luckily he didnt) but he tried to, this makes him a danger to other girls because he could try to rape others, and could also attempt to rape you again

the best thig you can do now is tell someone what happened, do NOT keep it to yourself, push it under the rug and attempt to get over it or prentend it never happned, because all that does is create more problems. start off by telling your parents, they love you, there going to offer there advice and support and tell you how much they love you, they can also help you to tell the police, teling the police will also be a good idea, because they may be able to arrest him. now, you NEED to tell at least one teacher at school, because if a teacher doesnt know, there not going to be able to help you, tell as mnay teachers as you can (it wont be easy but try) so they can help. they can also help take this to the police, but most of all, they can keep an eye on him so he doesnt do anywere near you, they can move his/your lockers well away from eacher and remove him from your classes if hes there too.

you could also change schools. and remember that is this ever happens again (hopefully it never does) scream and make as much noise as possible, when you do that people are more likley to realise somethings wrong and come and help you, and if you fight back and scream sometimes the rapist will stop because its too much of a hassle I hope this helped a bit

Answer #2

I am so sorry to hear about this it’s horrible my sister was the same apart from they were bullying her because she had big boobs so they tried 2 touch her and she fought themm off she moved school and house becuse off that and for you to still go the samee school is preettyy amazing and if I was you I would press charges or do something about him becuse hee will do it again he might not do it 2 you but what about you bestfriend or your sister how wold you feel then and they might be much weaker then you were xx

Answer #3

technically that is rape and I no its scary for younow to see him everyday in school.. ecspecially if your a teen its horrible rumurs will be spreap and people will turn on you the best thing to do is tell your parents and tell the police this is a serious matter no matter what you or he think it is … he abused and raped you… that is serious I no its goning to be hard for you to talk to your parents but you have to because if you dont the pain and hurt will be on you and you will be scared this can lead to depresiion and death IM NOT JOKING just tell your parents hey raised you they no what to do..

Answer #4

well maybe you shud tell your parents about this so they can inform the cops about it I know your probably scared to do this because a lot of pple face things like this and they scared to tell because they think the person will come back to get them bhut for your safety you shud tell your parents rite away. because you have to go to school bhut for now if your not ready to tell them now you shud walk home with a group of friends and make sure most of them are guys that you trust and don’t wait 2 or 3 days later to tell your parents try to tell them as soon as possible love- nyasia p.s hope every thing turns out gud for you

Answer #5

holy shit. are you ok? wow thata scary. what I wud do ia tell my parents and ovoid him at all costs. also you shud call the police. what he did was illegal. he tried to rape u. he punched u. what you did was right to run off like that. but he cpuld defenitly get arrested for doing that. then he wont be your problem anumore

Answer #6

Tell you parents, tell the police and then tell the principle/school board. Get him removed from your school. That is an assault.

Answer #7

I think the best way to deal with such perv is to make a report you shall also concider seeing a concellor as a matter of fact you should have already made an report on that sick twisted young child , you chould not have to deal with such ok

Answer #8

oh my gosh, I’m so sorry that happened to you. I think you need to tell your parents then report it to the school principal, then it will probably be reported to the cops. that happened to me one time (kinda different situation) and I told the cops and everything was much better.

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