What/ does my mom hate me? does she understand?

..but always remember that loyalty to your parents is very important.

And I agree with in_omnia_paratus about the two weeks each thing.

nope. not selfish. maybe you could ask your mum to move house? or you could do the ‘two weeks at mums two weeks at dads’ thing that some kids do. that way, you could stay at your school and boyfriend. and you could spend 2 weekends out of every month with your mum, doing mother daughter stuff, which she would probably appreciate. and then 2 weeks with your stepdad and boyfriend?

No its not selfish, as far as I can see, because its not right for parents to uproot there children’s lives. Its good that your mother is giving you a choice in the matter. Though I really think you should sit down and have an honest talk with her, tell her how you feel and that you don’t want to hurt her feelings, that you love her very much, but you cant just start over a new life and a new boyfriend. Life is complicated, and everyone makes mistakes, kids and adults, and no one can be the perfect person, no one can just change the life they trust and have been brought up in, and I think she will understand why you prefer to stay at your step dads. Just talk with her about it.

:)