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What/ does my mom hate me? does she understand?

this is sorta long, but I reallly need some advice..

Well, my mom and stepdad split up maybe, two years ago. when they did, I decided to move out with my mom. (my stepdad was a big a**hole at times…)

well, now my mom lives in the next town. (8 minutes from my stepdads.) and my stepdad lives in the same house. For the past year, I’ve been pretty much living with my stepdad. its not that I like him more. I just like it bc, if I stay here, I can continue going to the same school, and stay with my boyfriend. (been dating for three years :DDD) and I cant reallly hang out with my boyfriend at my moms bc she wont drive me to his house, I dont have my lisence, and he dont have the gas to drive that far. ( he lives in the town nexttt to my dads. about thirty minutes from moms house.)

im currently at my dads again. I was only supposed to come over for the weekend.. but I havent gone home yet. its been two weeks. I dont want my mom to feel bad. she knows why I stay over here. I’ve told her. I love being with my mom. but, I need to go to my same school, and see my boyfriend to.

is this selfish of me? do you think my mothers feelings are hurt? am I a bad person?

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Answer #1

I don’t think its selfish you’re still a child and you have a very good point that you want to go to the same school…I think your mom understands

Answer #2

..but always remember that loyalty to your parents is very important.

And I agree with in_omnia_paratus about the two weeks each thing.

Answer #3

nope. not selfish. maybe you could ask your mum to move house? or you could do the ‘two weeks at mums two weeks at dads’ thing that some kids do. that way, you could stay at your school and boyfriend. and you could spend 2 weekends out of every month with your mum, doing mother daughter stuff, which she would probably appreciate. and then 2 weeks with your stepdad and boyfriend?

Answer #4

No its not selfish, as far as I can see, because its not right for parents to uproot there children’s lives. Its good that your mother is giving you a choice in the matter. Though I really think you should sit down and have an honest talk with her, tell her how you feel and that you don’t want to hurt her feelings, that you love her very much, but you cant just start over a new life and a new boyfriend. Life is complicated, and everyone makes mistakes, kids and adults, and no one can be the perfect person, no one can just change the life they trust and have been brought up in, and I think she will understand why you prefer to stay at your step dads. Just talk with her about it.

:)

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