What do I say to make a mother's death easier to get over?

my father passed soem time ago and I was in much the same way… time is always the best to heal such a deep pain…however she are still alive and you need to remind your cousin that her mother would want her to continue living, and if her existing family is no longer available for the emotional support than she may feel a sense of abandonment..and this accompanied with the exixting greif could lead to severe depression… you may need to drop some harsh truths but if that gets her out of her black hole and back with the living than soo be it…

Well thank you all very much =) Im happy that I got a response so soon.

I went to a counsler yesterday and spoke as if I were my cousin. When I told the counsler about my situation she said that she couldn’t help.

She had me wait for another counsler in this empty room filled with a bunch of chairs. When I sat there waiting, I started thinking that even though it wasn’t really me who had lost my mom, I still felt pretty let down.

Im sure it doesnt compare to the feelings of how it would be if I really lost my mom but what the hell!? They couldnt help me. I just hope that my cousin doesnt feel the same way when I dont give her the answer she wants.

Im going to twist most of your answers and try that. When I do ill be sure to tell you all what happened at a later date.

Thank you all deeply

My mother passed away last summer from a massive heart attack and I am still struggling with it of course but I have myself, gone to speak to someone about the pain and emptiness I am feeling and it really did not help. This is my mother, I will never stop hurting. I constantly think of her and I know that probably does not help but I beleive that thinking about her always will help me heal for the loss that I have endured. Just tell your friend she is not alone and I know how she feels and tell her that her mother would probably not want her to be so sad that she is gone and she needs to move on with her life. She does not have to get over it because that is a huge thing to experience, it still hasn’t hit me either that my mom is gone but it is real and that is the way of life.
I find that when I talk about my mom it helps the healing process, have her do that. I don’t know if this has helped at all but if your friend needs to chat to someone else who has expereinced this, have her join this website and I would be more than happy to chat with her. Maybe she just needs to talk to someone who has endured this. As for her family not supporting her on this anymore, thats just down right rude and they obviously don’t care about her feelings. Tell her to ingore them. JERKS!!!