How to make my mother believe?

Ohk, I had written on this website some time in November about my moms boyfriend. It was about how he was being very inappropriate towards me and what to do about it. Well one day I flipped while my mom was at work and it was just me and him in my house. He was yelling at me for stupid stuff like he usually does and I got so frustrated that I just started calling him a perv. I said “ I went on for almost a year without saying anything you’ve done to me and I can’t take it nomore. “ He stood there and said “ what ? Why would I do that to you ? Maybe it’s all in your head. “ I was just about ready to kill him for trying to make it look like I made it up in my head or something. So I called my mom and told her mostly everything and he denied it and she refused to come home from work when I asked her to. I actually started crying. I said to her “ after what I just told you you’re not going to come home ? What kind of mother are you ? I just told you your boyfriends a perv and you’re not coming home ? “ He said I pulled the story out my butt just to get him kicked out and crap like that. He was packing to leave the whole time and I broke my stand up mirror. I actually cut my wrist about three times with a piece of broken glass just to see if I would feel better. This was two months ago. My mom doesn’t believe me obviously because she’s still with him. He lives with his mom and my mom spends most of her time with him now. He occasionally sleeps over my house and I can’t do anything about it. I was sooo close to my mom and still am and that’s why it hurts me so much that she’s still with him and spends most of her time with him. She still likes to spend time with me but he always gets mad at her if she ant spend time with him so that’s why she’s with him a lot. He calls her every two seconds when she’s not with him and asks about her every move. It is actually mother’s day today and the whole day she’s been with him. I said to him “ it’s mother’s day, go spend it with YOUR own mother and not mine “ and he was just like whatever. I cry a lot whenever my mom says bye to me when she’s going to his moms house to be with him because I just want my mommie back. She is my bestfriend and I miss mainly having her to myself.

Answer #1

I’m not 19, I only just turned 15 last week. So I’m going to be with my mother for a long time before I’m old enough to leave. So it’s not like I’m a cry baby adult. I cry about the fact that after what I’ve told her she still spends all her time with him. I don’t cry because she leaves me. And he would try to expose himself to me sneakily, as if he’s making it seem like he was doing it by accident. He would masturbate when I’d be right there in front of him with my back towards him, and other things of that sort. I want to go to a counselor in my high school but I honestly don’t want this to turn into a big thing. My mom is not a bad mom at all, she just makes bad choices sometimes.

Answer #2

You don’t say what he did that made him a perv. Since your 19 and it’s been going on a year that makes him a cheater (on your mother) and a cradle robber. Not that whatever he did was right. If you don’t want him near you he needs to stay away. Period!!! If he forces himself on you calll the police.

Your mother is facing being alone when you leave. You won’t live with her forever. She’s rationalizing that he treats her good so she’s blocking out what he’s done to you. It’s not that she doesn’t love you, she’s just having a very weak moment. This is a very common occurance actually.

If he is being inappropriate with you it is better that she go there then have him come over to your house. Be thankful for that. Your going to need to accept that your mother needs time to figure this out. Don’t hold it against her. In the mean time protect yourself. Make dates with your Mother so you have set times/dates you will spend together. Stop crying when she leaves. This is a growing moment. If you cannot be strong when she goes to his house how can you expect her to be strong enough to leave him and face being alone?

Answer #3

You should to either a counseler or the police. He should not be treating you perfertedly, and your mother should believe you over him. The guy above me is a perv, just like your mothers boyfriend.

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