Verbal abuse...

This is one of those terrible situations. Verbal abuse from a loved one can weaken you emotionally and by doing so it can actually bring you closer to them/ make you more emotionally dependent when you’d think in the majority of cases it would push people away.

At this point in time I think moving with him should be postponed. This is a serious issue and I think you should know that verbal abuse is unacceptable. Talk to your partner about this because he has no right to abuse you whilst thinking you’ll just come crawling back. Explain to him that you’re concerned that if you move in with him, this abuse will not only continue, but become more frequent. You should not have to tolerate this kind of behaviour from him and that is not to mention that he should not be expecting you to. This kind of thing could also (potentially) hurt your child, so act in his best interests as well.

I know that talking to your partner like this will be hard, but you have to do it. You need to show some respect for yourself and stop what is now just a ‘problem’ from becoming a catastrophy. He might get defensive, but if you stay calm and simply explain all of your concerns to him, at least he will then know what your position is. If he feels as if he can hurl abuse at you in that fashion, then he doesn’t deserve to be with you or your son (as harsh as that may sound).

Have a serious talk with your partner about the issue at hand and how it has influence your feelings in relation to moving in with him. Assure him that you do love him and you would love to be able to live with him, but you need to tell him that the abuse must stop. You obviously have a lot of love to give and if this guy can’t respect you the way he should, then just remember that there are plenty of fish in the sea and that you would have every reason to throw him back in. I do understand that thinking beyond being with someone that you love is hard, but you cannot allow yourself to be hurt like this on what could be a regular basis.

Talk with your partner and try to identify the reasons as to why he verbally abuses you and see if you can fix things in a calm and comfortable manner. If you can’t, then as inconceivable as it may seem, you do know what to do. I really hope that all turns out well, so good luck :)!

let me just say this. if he is verbally abusive to you now, how do you think it is gonna be once you move in together? a lot of the time when there is any type of abuse…it will get worse. and who’s to say that he won’t eventually start doing it to your son. I think you should also postpone this and tell him how you feel about him and the way he treas you. don’t put yourself in a bad situation. think of your son now.