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Verbal Abuse?

Every day for these past 4 years my father yells at me for hours about how he does not love me, or how selfish/annoying/stupid/worthless I am. I get straight A’s and have a full scholarship to Yale (I said earlier he has refused to pay for college in another question because of my relationship with my boyfriend) and I try very hard to make him proud of me, but nothing works. My question is, is there anything against verbal abuse in the law or is it simply a part of life that some people have to deal with? This may not even be verbal abuse, I don’t know. Also, it’s hard because it enfuriates my boyfriend and I feel bad worrying my boyfriend about this problem. He loves me and hates to see me in pain, and I’m worried it may become too big of a burden for him, as it is becoming for me. Help! My mother believes my dad is giving me tough love and I deserve it, my dad won’t listen when I try to speak to him about it rationally. I am tired of being told I am not good enough to be loved.

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Answer #1

How are things working out for you so far? It’s been about a month since you asked for advice. Any news on how well it’s worked out?

Answer #2

kailey, if you mean that seriously haha thats very sweet of you and thanks…if you’re kidding then i feel like i total idiot :)

Answer #3

Wow you are a very lucky/special girl and i wish i could be as amazing as you.

Answer #4

Thanks for the advice, I’ll learn to suck it up and move on. You’re right, I am pretty lucky to have what I have and I’ll be moving out soon for college anyway. Thanks again!

Answer #5

Thanks so much for asking, I’m extremely happy and things are working out sooo well. I realized that I am so lucky to have what I do and my father really doesn’t have much control over me anymore, I mean I’m off to college soon so what he says shouldn’t affect me as much as it did. When I stopped reacting to my father’s words, he gave up after a while and stuck to small talk whenever I’m around. Thanks so much again for the help, an0m1n0s, it was really the push I needed to move past something I thought I couldn’t overcome. And my boyfriend and I are stronger than ever, we hope to get married after we graduate from college! Thanks again :)

Answer #6

Out with the old, in with the new. Your parents are aging and they are jealous of your youth. I’ve seen it a thousand times. Don’t bring the law into it, your dad isn’t THAT bad, but you don’t have to take it. Leave them behind. I’ve read your other comments, answers and questions, and I am impressed. You’re young, smart, and you have the love of your life to hold you - You couldn’t have it better. Seriously. Oh, and don’t worry too much about your grumpy dad, it’s just a phase. He’ll be done with that once you’ve moved away for a while.

Answer #7

damn gurl you’re blessed!!

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