How can I let it go and work on trusting him?

my boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for almost 3 years. We have had a lot of trouble with him being honest about his ex wife to me. He slept with her the second month we were dating and saw her behind my back for a while. In the past year he has stopped seeing her (if they do see each other, he tells me,which is rare), she still calls him but he seldom answers (he let me go through his phone). Anyways I have a really hard time trusting him or believing him when he says they arent seeing each other. I do believe him now but im almost obsessively suspicious of him. How can I let it go and work on trusting him because we both want to have a happy relationship but its still hard for me. help please!

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I think that when trust is gone it’s usually best to let a relationship go. I don’t think either of them are truly over the relationship they had if they were still sleeping together and she calls. And even though you went through his phone once, you never know what else he could be hiding from you. I think it would help you to not focus on whether or not he’s actually still cheating, but on how you truly deserve to be treated. You should have someone who you trust and feel safe with, and that trust is gone.

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