Xmas should I let him go out

It sounds like you guys have a very unhealthy relationship.

It was interesting you started out your post with … “ I no he loves me.. “ “ But… “

• Love is a complicated emotion and should not be taken lightly. You’re about.. (1992) so.. 18? How old is your boyfriend?

-Ex’s are ex’s for a reason… honestly, if you guys are on and off.. eventually you will be off. The chances of your relationship lasting is very slim, possible but slim, unless you guys both decide to make reasonable changes.

-You should go back and read what you wrote. It seems like you guys have a lot of ongoing problems and you should start with one thing, not bring up all things up at once.

-What happened in the beginning of your relationship up to this point may be completely different. People grow and change over the years, whether it’s for better of worse.

• You asked: ‘ shoud I let him go out drinking xmas with his work mates?’ of course. he should be able to go out whenever he wants, but also you should go out whenever you want. just let eachother now who you’ll be with. he will prob tell you where theyre going + when they’ll be back HERE IS WHERE TrUST COMES IN: you have to give him the benefit of the doubt even if bad things have happened in the past, it takes one person to make a change, if he sees you being more chill/relaxed he may open up to you if he really is a good person/boyfriend and if he is dedicated to you

-Strip clubs… drinking… just let him do it. Honestly, to get trust you have to give trust. And you guys should not limit eachother to what and when you can/cant go or with who.

Read this what you wrote: ‘’ Thing is I dont want to loose him, I dont want him to cheat or find someone better. am just so scared. ‘’ If he cheats or finds someone different… doesnt that mean you deserve someone better? Someone who will treat you right and trust you and want to be with you and not someone else?

“but I no what he’s like when he’s drunk.. or when hes got a hard on… He’ll want it.. he’s easy as they say its called.. “ if he loves you he wont do it. and if he drinks to get stupid it means he has no respect for you bc if he really loves you in the first place he wont want to hurt you by potentially cheating on you

“But if I was to go out he woudn’t like it.. exspecialy if it was with a boy mate… I don’t know how to act, or what to do “””he dont let me””” out He says it ent the fact that im gona cheat or out,” -You can do what YOU want. He’s not your parents. How old is he?

“he says its because im only 16’ and anything can happen to me, someone could spike my drink ECT. “ there is the chance that someone can spike his drink as well. you both are equals.

“but then when I want to go to my home town about 2hours awway and stay at my mates he won’t let me because he thinks im gonna cheat, or run of with her uncle who he thinks fancey me, but he doesnt… Does my head in, if I was to go out drinking he’d get the arse about it -_–“

You guys really need to learn to trust one another. You are taking some steps but it seems on his behalf, he isn’t.

I understood most of what you said but from being British I didn’t understand some terms.

But as a general overview, you need to go out and do things for yourself. You should not limit yourself to what he likes/ doesn’t like. You don’t know if you guys are going to be together forever. You may miss out on some good opportunities with friends =] =[

I’m 21 and I’ve been in 5 serious relationships. I had a lot of these same problems. Also my parents have problems. It’s inspired me to become a Family and Marriage Counselor and learn more about realtionships =] I love to give whatever advice I can.

Hope some of this helps =] Take care. <3 Klaudia