too shy

okay so im in middle skool. I have frends but not as many and dont worry they arent dorks. but im not popular. and thats because I dont tlk much. im afraid of what other people think of me and I know thats stupi. im not extremly shy I actually tlk a lot to my frends just not to people that arent my frends and guys. can you plzzz help me???

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Answer #1

It sounds as though you want to increase your popularity. However, middle school popularity isn’t all you think it will be; I know from experience as I was part of the most popular clique in middle school. So-called “popular” people are often very unhappy and lack real friends.

If this isn’t what you’re concerned about, and you just want to conquer your shyness, don’t always think that people will think the worst of you. Try to judge yourself as if you were in the person you were talking to’s shoes. They probably don’t have anything against you. If I were you, I would try talking to a different person (who isn’t your friend) each day. You don’t have to have a long conversation, you can talk about something stupid like the weather, or maybe about classwork. The point is that you get used to interacting with different people. If you do this for long enough, eventually it will become more natural to you, and you will slowly find that maybe you arent as “shy” as you originally thought. Good luck!

Answer #2

Shyness can be a big problem. Try to force yourself to talk to people without stupid (in other words, think before you speak).

Be natural, talk about thing that you are good or have great knowledge of. Be humble.

People will then tend to gravitate to you.