Teen daughter leaving to live with Dad

I am fifteen years old,in a positive environment,both financially well off and healthy for me. My parents aren’t divorced but I hate living here. I’d give up the world to go somewhere else,or have my parebts divorce so I could have an option. As off of your situation as that is,I feel the same way about my parents as your daughter does to you,always being in trouble,probably not doing well in school and being yelled at all the time for it,fighting a lot,other people fighting because of me. It makes me hateful and resentful towards my family,my mother especially. I DID NOT HAVE THESE FEELINGS UNTIL I EXPERIENCED EMOTIONAL ABUSE IN AN UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP. Most people I know that have changed their view on their parents so dramatically have had something serious happen and it’s not your fault. I’m not saying this is the answer,but it could be. I suggest talking about it. Or having someone you both trust talk with her and then talk to you. or a counselor.

I am so sorry for what you’re going through. I can only imagine the pain and betrayal you’re feeling right now. Your ex turned out to be a real piece of work (guess that’s why he’s your ex). I went through the whole not getting along with my mother, it was relatively short though since I graduated at 16 and left for school when I turned 17. And then distance made me appreciate her… I would definitely try to fight this in court, but what you’re feeling right now, about your daughter being pulled away from you, try and remember that this isnt forever. Your ex hasnt turned over a new leaf, and that emotional support she gets from you isnt going to be there. I cant tell you how long it will take if you dont get physical custody back, but she will be back… You have to have faith in the bond you have, and in human nature (he hasnt changed, and she’s going to want her mommy at some point). In the meanwhile, I know this is hard, but sitting at home isnt going to help… Try doing something for yourself once in a while. Go to the movies. Join a club. Keep yourself busy. Call friends. If you dont have any other kids, sitting at home in an empty house is not good for you.

She fifteen,she will see the grass isn’t greener on the other side and decide that she is better off with you.If not she will probably be miserable.

well…I think it may be because she doesn t see her dad a lot and with you probs been stricter and doin the normal borin things e.g havin to look after her all the time your probably not gettin on hes gettin stressed and is thinkin it b because of you don t worry once she realises what your ex is like shel want 2 liv with u, but try and not 2 get angry and shout help each other!!! hope this helps!!!

Get a good lawyer, tell the truth, and if you’re the religious type, pray. They say the truth shall set you free. I’m inclined to believe that if you take that approach, you have better chances than if you tried to make up a story.

Hello CMom

My 16 year old and I argued before Christmas and has stayed in my Mums ever since. Like you I am distraught as she is reliving all the tension and stress we experienced as she was growing up and refuses to speak to me. I fought her dad for support but none arrived and he didnt want to see her regularly or support her. My mum helped with finances but I was left emotionally isolated. I cry all the time now but have spoken with a counsellor and she says that it is time to live a little myself. I agree but feel all the bad feelings my daughter has towards me is just too sad. I have joined a local walking group and a swim class. Like me, you need to be arround people it is very difficult but getting out into the world is the only answer. Teenagers will be teenagers and the mother daughter relationship is the most difficult in the world even even with a supportive partner/husband. I am praying a lot now as I have realised that it is not in my control. Do not be too hard on yourself as it is clear you are a devoted Mum, otherwise you would be smiling at your new found freedom and opening the house for a party!!lol Take it easy and am thinking about you Remember too, no one can stop you loving her no matter where she is. xoxo

I am fifteen, and sometimes think that my mom can be waywayway be hard on me, there is lots of yelling and sometimes I over react, but its a teen thing! although I think she when t a little to far, but maybe because her parents have been divorced for so long and her dad getting her everything she wants has maybe made her spoiled, my cousin does the exact same thing she always goes to her mom for things because she thinks her dad is to mean, but I think that if you give her some time and agree to her wishes, but not too much, I think you will find a way to get closer to her again, I hope this helps! :)