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What if I feel like my Dad is leaving me for her?

im 14 years old and I dont live with my mom but I have chosen to live with my dad, but now after I think two going on 3 years that I has only been him and I, he goes and starts talking to a girl that looks like my sister. now that I have found out that they are talking my dad has changed a lot and we’ve been arguing everyday about her. I dont like her theres something about her that I dont like. I dont like aruguing with my dad but I dont know what to do anymore I feel like my dad is leaving me for her. what should I do? can someone help me? please!!!

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Answer #1

Take a deep breath, gal. Your Dad is not leaving you. He loves you very, very much. (I’ve been there. My wife and I divorced and my 12 yo daughter chose to live with me.) Your Dad is merely looking for a woman to be friends with, possibly to form a relationship. It may be this lady or another. BUT HE WILL ALWAYS LOVE AND CHERISH YOU. Always! Just as you are maturing and growing, so is he. After a divorce a guy does one of two things. Either dates around immediately (to prove himself (?) ) or he withdraws for a while. That was my course, as I had two kids to raise by myself, a house to run, and a full time job. That was probably your Dad’s priorities, too. What I would suggest is 1.) try to understand that your Dad is trying to grow again; and 2.) It may be time to start seeing what opportunities there are for you to find additional interests, possibly after school activities — sports, clubs, volunteer work. I hope that this helps some. I know that it isn’t easy. But remember he loves you. And a parent loves their child so totally, that it is a bond that is almost impossible to break. He may fall in love one day, but he will always love you more.

I hope that this helps. Good Luck !!

Answer #2

Dont worry.Your dad wont leave you.But please remember,your dad definitely have the freedom to talk to others.No matter how much you dont like that girl,as long as your dad likes it.Then let him go.I mean,talk to that girl.He wont leave you anyway.

Answer #3

Wow, I know that must really hurt, but he’s not doing it to hurt you. Your dad is a man with feelings, and he is probably very lonely. Yes, he has you, and you are wonderful, but men and woman are naturally drawn to a mate. I wouldn’t push the issue too much right now. Don’t make him choose, because you might really get your feelings hurt. Just like you will want to be with someone one day, and you won’t want someone to tell you not to be with them. You probably wouldn’t listen to anyone who told you not to be with the one you love. Talk to him about it, get to know her better. Good luck.

Answer #4

Dear i_l0v3_my_b0yfri3nd, You are not the parent…you can express that you do not like this girl and give some solid reasons why. State how you feel and leave it at that. He can date whom he chooses. For him to argue with you is wrong he needs to say to you I have chosen to date this girl and I’m sorry you don’t like her but it is my choice and he needs to leave it at that. Now brace yourself for when you date someone he doesn’t like. Sue…good luck

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