Would you allow your son to have his girlfriend sleep over at his college dorm?

okay. even if they were both virgins? does that rule change? or would you not allow it still?

Thank you!! I appreciate your honesty :)

Hes in college. he can make his own decisions. And its his dorm, not his parents house. They cant say what he does or doesnt do there.

His life. His decisions. All parents can do is guide him to what is right and wrong. It’s still his decision whether he learned from you or not.

no problem (:

I would let him make his own decisions. If he chooses to have a girl sleep over then I would trust his judgement. When I have children I plan to educate them in safe sex and give them all the knowledge they need to be able to look after themselves. So if he chooses to practice that, then that is his choice.

If you restrict people they only want to do things more, so let people live their lives and if they later think what they have done is a mistake then they will have learnt a lesson with it too. You can’t shield people forever. What they do at that age is up to them and I wouldn’t see any problem at all with people of that age having a sleepover if they wished.

At 18 and 19 they are adults. As a parent, I’d let him do whatever he wants. I’d assume that he takes responsibility for anything that happens there, too, though. He’s gotta think for himself.

How can you not allow it? Quite frankly it isn’t even much of the parents’ business at that point, they can’t stop them. Plus, they’re both adults and capable of making their own decisions.

yup

Even if both the son and girlfriend were virgins, I’d be completely alright with it. I wouldn’t stop my child/children as long as they are educated. It’ll happen anyways. With or without consent, besides if my child knows he has my permission he’ll be more confident in telling me what he does. :)

I don’t see how this could possibly be your decision. They’re old enough. If you are worried that they might do something with… ehm… aftereffects, you could buy a box of condoms, give it to your son and tell him to take care.

He’s in college? Like seriously, how do you allow or disallow this? I graduated high school at 16 and left for college, like that was pretty much it after that. My parents couldn’t really allow things they weren’t present for.

yes hes in college obviously its got to be hard but hes got to grow up and if something happens be there for him thats all you need to do

Thanks. I agree

Thank you. He has pretty good judgment :)

yeah, he legit told his parents.. so they have a very trustworthy relationship. lol. Thank you for your honesty

Thanks

wow. 16! congrats on that… you must have been really smart. And I know just how you feel - once in college, more freedom

Thank you! I agree. at that age, we should be able to make these decisions. Thanks

Thanks.. and I doubt anything will happen ^_^

Thank you so much Cassie!

I agree, if you restrict them, they will eventually rebel. Thank you, I don’t see a problem with it at all, as long as they aren’t doing or planning to do anything sexual! Thanks again

Truthfully, it’s not your place at this point in his life to make those decisions for him. You did your job and now it’s time to let him make his own decisions.