What to do with son's crazy girlfriend?

you have to remeber he is 15 years old and yeah he is at that age but you should trust him and tell him were you stand in all of this and what you expect from him and talk to her aswell x

hope this helps

You took it wayy to far but then again, my partner is nearly 20 and his mum wont let him breathe… But theres a long and horrible past behind that reason, them quizzes on social networking sites and random and crazy as god knos what, how can a little socail site quiz predict your future :S you need to start letting him grow up and live his own life his self…

I think you have gon to far as it is just a random quiz I took one and it sead I was going to get marred this year and I do not think that will be happening so you shold have gust left it or had them see each other at your house so you no they are not doing any thing

no everything your doiing is right and its good that you dont want them to see each other. Maybe you should sit down and have a talk with her and her parents and juss makee you son stay with family?? I hope this heelps.

dude what the hell im mean come on man thats like rule one dont tell him to break up with her I mean s* sorry about my lang. but come on my older brother did not speak to my dad because of that.but ya you went to far dont tell him to break up tell him tho use a condom or the birds and the bees well thats all I have to say

Wrong. In many ways.

You went and took action for what somebody said that they saw on a sotial site! Like mikey said, everything on the internet is not true. Basically everything that involves quizez on a social site is not true. You broke him up, unfair, because you went to what other people say. Is he’s dad ganna give him more fredoms because if yes might as well be saying goodbye to him. You didn’t trust your boy, and that is the most thing needed in a perent and kid relationship. Di you even ask him? Did you talk yo him?

If yhe answers are no then what you did here is wrong.

I don’t think the problem is with the quiz, it’s the fact that they are getting too close. Period. Kids at this age are too young to be emotionally and physically involved. They are supposed to be concentrating on their future, education, what they want for their lives, etc. We are here to be their parents, not their friends.
I don’t agree with nagging kids but maybe the boy isn’t looking after himself. The mom didn’t really say why. Why do so many people think it’s okay to treat our teens like they’re little adults that have the right to do whatever they want? Kids need rules and boundaries - without them you have problems. Seems as though the people that take the liberal approach to raising their kids end up being the ones to bail them out of jail or look after their illegitimate children. I know ,because there’s a lot of it in my community.

I think that at 15 kids are too emotionally immature to handle the consequences of what having sex can bring, it only takes 1 time! no less who will have to be responcible for raising the child while their parents try to finish school if they even do , who will provide daycare? do they have a good job, money to pay for health insurance, a house to live in, food on the table to eat? who will be taking care of that?

I don’t know if you are even going to get to my advice since so many people seem so eager to jump on it, but when I was 15 my boyfriends mom used to accuse me of trying to get pregnant to ruin his baseball career (pitched 93 mph in H.S was awesome),and said we could not see each other and asked my mom to help her do so, but that made us rebel even more and my mom did not agree with keeping us apart because she preferred to supervise us and that way we could see each other and she’d know what we were doing all the time. Maybe you should just have them supervised for a while instead of leaving the house on dates, to ensure they aren’t having sex yet, but don’t force him to break up with her because truly it’s going to make matters worse and more than likely they will break up by a year or so.

I agree with Mikeh. You went way to far. The idea is to educate your children about the dangers of unprotected sex and having it to young, not to lock them behind a bolted door.

Your son is going to make mistakes in future, a lot of them. However you can limit the impact that these bad choices (which everyone makes) will have on him by having an open relationship with him and trusting him.

Being this controlling is going to cause your son to do exactly everything you don’t want him to do AND worse do it behind your back, because he can’t confide in you. You also run a risk of alienating him (it wouldn’t surprise me if he is already wishing that he could move out of the house or that you would magically disappear)

Also he is 15, he is old enough to groom himself and brush his own teeth etc. His girlfriend is right you know. You are way to controlling and simply paranoid.

Step back and let your children grow up. It’s going to benefit them a lot more in the long run.

‘’I know ,because there’s a lot of it in my community.’’

There are a lot of blacks and Puerto Ricans in my community too, but that doesn’t make me an expert on being black or Puerto Rican.

The simple reality is that teenagers will have sex no matter how many fist-thumping parents surround them and declare them too emotionally immature to handle the responsibility. If you set realistic expectations, establish boundaries, and teach them about safe sex, you’ve done all that you can do. After that, cracking down on their freedoms is going to derive precisely the opposite result as you intended.

So in the end, if your son gets his girlfriend pregnant, is it because you allowed them to have sex? No, because he was going to have sex anyway. It’s because he was brought up in an environment wherein he felt the need to challenge authority and act recklessly, not an environment where he was taught a healthy respect for sexuality.

Well I’m 15 as well, I’ll be 16 soon. I personally think that you took it to personal. You should of asked questions first before doing anything else. You should trust your own son. Just because your Son’s girlfriend took a quiz saying shes going to be pregnant this year DOESN’T mean she IS going to get pregnant this year. It takes a simple egg and 1 sperm to create a baby and not a quiz. You said, ‘ how can I believe or trust them anymore ‘. What do you mean by “ anymore “.

You made a mistake telling him he can’t see her because trust me, teenagers will do just about anything to see their loved ones and its way worse then some quiz.. You were 15 once.. Let them be.. He’s growing and he will learn from his mistakes. How can he learn and grow up to be a man if your mothering him so much?

Think of both sides and please, don’t set rules and tell him what he can’t do just because your his mother.. When he turns 16, he can move out and I’m pretty sure you don’t want that to happen.

Good luck.

Okayy Im 15 as well almost 16 and in my experiance this is how it went… I was dating this guy for two years when my mother told me I couldnt date him anymore because we were getting too “close” at that time we hadnt even had sex yet… I was just talking about it with him bc I was curios and my mother read my txt messages… from then on we had to go behind her back and it got more serious cause we had no boundries… We had sex… I told my mother and OFCOURSE she flipped… but the truth is that if she would have just let us ask our questions and see each other we wouldnt have tried experimenting… And besides they are teenagers they are gonna talk about sex and pregnacy they may even joke around about it… ITS VERY COMMON! Now im not saying that you shouldnt limit their time together what im saying is DO NOT try and keep them away from eachother that will NOT help it will just cause him to resent u… I PROMISE take it from someone who knows… I do understand where you are coming from though I know your just worried about your sons future but what happens is ment to happen and it WILL happen weather you try to prevent it or not… I hope this help and the best of luck… By the way… I would have a sit down with HER parents if you do decide to let them date and let her parents know where you set the boundries with your kids so it wont be just YOU watching but her parents as well!!!

I believe in raising my children to be healthy responsible adults. I am not an expert on anything. All you have to do is look around. It doesn’t matter if you are black or white, rich or poor. It’s the families that have good morals, reasonable boundaries, openness, honesty, and closeness that thrive in today’s world. There is no reason for kids to be dating whether or not there is sex involved. How is a 15 year old ready for the emotional rollercoaster of dating? Their minds should be on their school work, friends, activities. Of course things can still happen even in the best of families. What is wrong with teaching our kids about the mental and emotional problems that come up when they have sex ? Try and dissuade them from even doing it! Boys are only after one thing - what’s going to happen to that girl after they’ve slept together? If a boy and a girl said they wanted to get married and move in together at the age of 15 - what would all these people on this site have to say about that? Why wouldn’t that be okay? Do the words “irresponsible” or “too young” sound about right? Why is sex any different? Come on. How can anyone say this is alright? My son is 15 and he is only in grade 9! I couldn’t even imagine him being ready for sex! He loves his family, his dog, his activities.
Too many kids are crying out for someone to put their foot down and take away some of the pressures of growing up too fast! It doesn’t mean we have to rule with an iron fist - just start early and be consistent. One more thing…if she taught him at an early age to look after his personal hygiene, and now she has to nag him to take a shower, etc. Who is going to be there to nag him to put a condom on? Educating them on something that they shouldn’t be doing just doesn’t work. There are many girls around the high school pushing baby buggys. There are several more in this town that got herpies from ONE girl. That will ruin the rest of their lives. What will their wives think? Teach your boys to keep it in their pants. They will ultimately thank you for it one day. I’m sorry if I’ve offended anyone - that is not my intention.

Yes, you went too far. It sounds like you’ve been going too far for quite a while. As overbearing and controlling as you are portraying yourself, count yourself lucky that your son hasn’t hopped boxcar out of town by now.

First let’s talk about the ‘’social site’’ business. In the past six months, I’ve taken FB quizzes that said I was Wolverine, Franz Kafka, C-3P0, and a Jane Austin character. I’m willing to bet I could find a FB quiz in five minutes that would tell me what type of Subway sandwich I am. Be right back

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I couldn’t find Subway, but there IS one for McDonald’s. Are you worried that I might be a Big Mac?

The point is, if you’re taking things found on the internet this seriously, you need to: a) relax and get a sense of humor, and… b) spend more time on the Internet so you can get firmer grasp of exactly what is going on there.

Moving on – cut the cord already before you drive your son away. If my mother had been hounding my that much about my grooming habits at 15, I would have ended up killing one or both of us by the time 16 rolled around. You had your fun in his baby years, and now it’s time to let him establish his own personality. If you want to be this involved with your offspring’s dental hygiene, have another kid.

Finally, of course they’re seeing each other on the side. You’re trying to stop a 15-year-old boy from seeing someone interested in touching his doodle? Might as well scream at a fire for being too orange and flickery. And now that you’ve driven them underground about it, their activities are no doubt more risky than they were when he thought he had a chance of being open and honest with you about it.

If you can’t let go and establish boundaries while still allowing him his freedom to be a teen, you might as well help him pack for his father’s place now.

you are a little wacky if you ask me. kids screw around all the time doesnt mean its gonna happen and if it is its his mess up not yours. alls you can do then is support him. you cant keep him away from anyone anyways unless you put him on house arrest which would be completely crazy.