How can I get my sister to be honest with me and tell me what's going on between us without upsetting her?

Answer #1

So there’s some trouble between you and you don’t know why?

I recommend that you try to sit down with her, invite her for coffee and just ask. It might be good to remember not to use sentences like “You have done this and that…” or “You keep doing/saying things like…”

But rather sentences like “I am worried about…”, “I get the impression/feeling that there is…” and I am feeling unwell because I believe that…”

You see the difference? Express your feelings and wishes. Don’t try to tell her what she’s been doing. She might have a completely different perception of the situation. Ask her whether you have done something wrong, don’t say what she has been doing wrong. And if she criticizes you in any way, explain why you behaved that way or that you had a different impression about it. Don’t say “But it was this way” say, “But I didn’t notice that, I only heard /saw this and understood it that way…”

Hope I could help

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