shyness!!

ummm.. I have this big problem of being really shy in front of a lot of people lets say a classroom of kids having a class discussion and im sitting there being asked a question and I always say I dont know or some other excuse why is that? do I need help? what do you think I should do?

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Answer #1

omg! we were doing this is psych!

it’s called social phobia. it’s a form of anxiety. it’s not like you need to be institutionalised or anything. and it’s really common.

it’s the fear of being judged, or like stared at. more people are scared of public speaking than death so it’s nothing serious

BUT!!! (love that word) you can fix it! (excited as I am???) -START SMALL you’re not going to be martin luther king jr in a day (not that you’d want to be, he is dead, after all, but that’s not my point)…

so what, it might not come natural. here are my tips…

there is always the MIRROR… that way you know if you can plan what to say, you don’t have to look as stupid as you might otherwise. (score)

think about the CLASS CLOWNS… they try to be funny, which makes you look sooo dumb when you stuff up.

IF YOU MESS IT UP (and remember kids: no swearing on fun advice, because that’s not fun) and everyone laughs for 10 seconds they are not going to write it down and bring it up at every high school reunion for the rest of your life. think about it, there is stupider things. plus if they do, you don’t have to go to them…

those are my top three have a think about its for you. I hope it helps

and I know you will probably hate this but PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT lol

luv rach

Answer #2

Instead of saying “I don’t know”, you could say “I would really have to think about that more, let someone else voice their opinion then come back to me”, that way it makes you look like a deep thinker( and then also come up with an answer to the question”…because you can only get away with it a few times until someone catches on.

Take a self esteem class or read some books on self esteem…it comes down to not feeling you are as good as someone else…ALWAYS REMEMBER YOU ARE AS GOOD AS EVERYONE IN EACH OF YOUR CLASSES…THINK some day you will grow up and have a business of your own and have your own teenager…having your own teenager you will need to know what to tell them…

Self Esteem, Self Worth And Self respect are all inportant for your future development and the same goes for your own children down the road…

Your opinions are never wrong because it is your opinion and everyone has the right to their own opinion so you can say what ever you want and it will be right to some degree…

Answer #3

you need to listen to “Brian Tracy”… is the shyness the reason for the middle finger in you pic?

Answer #4

thankyou very much I will do that next time and again fanx..

Answer #5

I think its just a personality. I get real shy off and on. I think its just being independent in a way. its nothing to be ashamed of or worry about. it gets better anyway as time goes on :)