Should I let go or hold onto this relationship?

Me & this guy name Keith have been on some serious rollercoaster ride for maybe over a year. I’ve known him since year 2000 and really liked him but nothing happened cus we were just kids back then. [although he is 2 years older]. We’ve experienced some major ups and downs since the middle of last year and he actually broke up with me out of anger last month. [I asked him nicely what is up with him and this one girl because I heard rumours that they were flirting but he got mad that I would even ask something like that and dumped me] Those rumours are btw, not true. People just stretched the truth. Ever since then, he has been trying to make it up to me and things been going PERFECTLY these last few weeks. Or over a month, even. Then yesterday, he told me he does not want to talk to me anymore [we’re not officially together] but he wants to break it off COMPLETELY. & he told me the reason why is because TOO MANY GUYS like me and he cannot take that [even though he know I stay true to him. It still bugs him.] and I have TONS OF GUY FRIENDS that he knows I won’t let go of because they’re my close friends. & That I know way too many people and way too many people look out for me so whatever he does gets back to me. For example, he was biking down to his aunts house this one day and I instantly got a phone call from a friend telling me “Oh I just saw keith biking down _“. He got no kind of privacy. Even his friends [whom are also MY friends] snitch on him. I still think the reasons he gave me were stupid because it isn’t something I could control. I didn’t tell people to snoop around and see what he’s up to. It just happens. And about every guy liking me, I can’t help that either. I am NOT a flirt. I don’t flirt with guys like that and make them like me so I don’t know why Keith got to be so insecure. Anyways, after he have that talk with me, he left and I really thought “Wow…This is it” only to come on the computer a while later and get an IM from him telling me he doesn’t want to stop talking to me. & that he’s been stressing because we’ve been having problems [which is not true] I think he is tripping off of me hanging out with my ex the other day. I feel like he’s messing around with my emotions a little too much because this isn’t the first time something like this happened. I don’t think he did it on purpose, but it still happens. I still feel like I am being tossed around…but…

I love this guy. For so many reasons. I would go through so much hard times, just to experience the ups when it decides to come around.

I am an extremely difficult person to be with, so when I say he’s almost perfect, he really is. Because I’ve dated around long enough to know what I am looking for. And this is it. But I haven’t been able to talk to him a lot because of his lifestyle. He doesn’t have a cell so I can contact him, he’s been extremely busy with his schoolwork so he barely have any time. His lifestyle is just something I cannot stand because he got a million ways to contact me but I have to go through lots of people to reach him. It’s not fair.

I don’t know what to do. Should I hold on… or should I let go…?

Answer #1

Dear thisgirl, Well with the “tons of other guys” you have and with Keith’s untrusting nature I think you both need to go separate ways. You are ready for a committed relationship and either is he and especially not with each other. Relationships are about communication and not about listening to other people’s gossip. You and Keith do not communicate well together and your history is rocky to say the least. It’s time to move on here and find someone who will put up with your “tons of guys” and he needs to move on to find a girl who he trusts. Sue…good luck

Answer #2

hi! to be honest with u i realy think this guy is playing games with you, he does’nt love u at all i say this bcoz u r the one trying to call him and he always brings up stupid reasons y u should break up, so my advice to u is to move on with yo life u deserve better u very pretty n young so u’l find someone for u out there, sometimes u dont have to follow your haert, just ask your self if this is the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with n c if u will be able to put up with his crap for the rest of your life, coz to me this relationshipe is onesided he just doesnt care at all!!! move on gal!!!

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