Afraid to tell my boyfriend about being taken advantage of

You should tell your boyfriend right now so he can beat the sh*t out of that guy…

dont matter what that guy said, he raped you, because even if you said yes, he knew you was drunk and he took advatange of you…you should first tell a family memeber or a close friend

damn I’m even pissed off from reading this…

please tell ya boyfriend, since ya’ll been going out for 4 years he wont be mad at you trust me…

and please go to the doctor to see if everything is alright

You might want to call someone, they either have a hotline or an online chat, they might be able to tell you more…

http://www.rainn.org/

I would consider it rape since you obviously weren’t able to defend yourself, say no or make a conscious decision. Your boyfriend’s roomate took advantage of the situation (you were probably passed out, this is why you can’t remember) and raped you. If I were you I would start with the hospital, test for drugs in your blood stream. I would also tell the doctor what happened and get the morning after pill. Find out if the doctor can see any signs of violence in your vagina and if he can swab any semen from you (to prove the rape occurred). Next you should talk to the police about pressing charges and inform your boyfriend as well as your parents what happened. This is a very serious situation and I think you should take drastic measures in order to avoid this type of thing happening to you or anyone else ever again.

I can relate to this story almost completely. go to the doctor, get a blood test talk to your boyfriend, if you guys have been dating for four years he should understand and if you werent able to function properly, the guy is an asshole for taking advantage of you

If you’re scared about telling your boyfriend…don’t be. If you cheated on him (cheated having the REAL definition of being coherent and making the decision willingly), THEN you should be scared. Telling your boyfriend, however, that one of his roommates had sex with you when you could barely identify YOURSELF is a little *ed up. While he may be upset that you had sex with him, he should understand that it wasn’t consensual and that you didn’t agree to it. At least, that would be my thought process.

Even though you said: “but if youre going to sit and tell me I put myself in the situation, f off. I didnt want to be molested and have some guy have sex with me without a condom. My boyfriend and I dont even do that.”

You need to accept the consequences of your actions. Next time you want to get plastered, you should go with a friend, or even your boyfriend, and stay with him at all times (or tell him/her that) to make sure this doesn’t happen. You don’t get drunk and then go off and do your own thing - that’s basically asking for something like this to happen, however, I’m not blaming you if it sounds like I am.

If you haven’t done so, I would advise to get the morning after Pill. If I remember correctly, they work up to 3 days after the fact. If that’s wrong, someone funmail me and correct me.

Good luck -

yeah go to your doctors , make sure you do that and sorry but you got to tell your boyfriend tell him you think you were drugged because you cant remember anything telll him you were raped he has to believe you his roomate is a jerk he could be doing this to loads of women and if so get checked for std’s