Do you think it's possible for someone to have a personality where they lie sometimes without meaning to or thinking?

And what would you do with a person like that? Would it be hard to have a mostly honest relationship with them?

It would be hard … this is something that usually requires therapy to deal with.

Can they change without therapy? If they could realize they’re a compulsive liar could they fix it or would that just make them a different person since lying is like second nature them?

I think, if they can accept that they have the problem, they may be able to work at stopping it.

I think this is a symptom of autism. Not sure, but my best friend has autism (azburgers or however you spell it), and she’s a great person and nice but she lies a lot without necessarily meaning to, making her seem kind of two-faced.

I dont know about that, that seems…wrong.

That’s not a symptom of asperger’s

That’s relieving…sort of.

yeah defenelty, it’s not so much their personality as it may be their mental state of mind. Sometimes it might be that they just don’t know what their talking about and so they make up stuff so they don’t look so clueless. Believe it or no it doesn’t mean that they are intentionally lieying but they are just trying to make sence of the question.

Compulsive liar?

There’s always a reason behind everything someone does. Even compulsive liars have reasons behind their lies. They may or may not be aware of the reason, but there is always a reason. Usually compulsive liars have issues with self esteem and their lies make them feel better in some way. You cannot lie without meaning to exactly, but it may be something not entirely conscious. I’ll give you an example, it’s like compulsive hand washing. When I get anxious, I was my hands a lot. I dont even notice I’m doing it sometimes. I’ll just notice my hands are really dry one day, and then it’s like oh, Ive been washing too much. It’s the same thing. The only way to overcome something that is compulsive is to stop doing it. To pay close attention and to stop. This seems obvious. But here’s the thing. When you stop doing something that is compulsive, it creates a LOT of anxiety. Because the compulsive habit was serving a purpose. If the person can figure out a way to deal with this increase in anxiety and wait it out, the anxiety eventually goes down and the person does not need to engage in the habit anymore. But the person has to be aware something is wrong and be willing to tolerate the anxiety and change (e.g. I have to wash my hair every day. I know it’s a compulsion but my hair is fine, and it doesn’t hurt anyone, so why change anything). Oh and compulsive lying is not necessarily a part of a person’s personality. It could be, it is sometimes seen in certain personality disordered people and that’s just how they are. But that is less of a compulsive lying problem and more of a general personality problem.

Compusive lying disorder? Yeah, I have that. I lie about the stupidest and most small things without knowing why or thinking. It’s so weird.