Should my parents be involved in my relationship?

She told me this in the beginning that I should play the field so I can have “experience” with other guys out there. I assume she doesn’t want me to put out with one man but two or more, as in meaning for me to understand? It doesn’t make sense that they are doing this in advance..Sure they’re worried and scared because it’s my first, but they think I’m irresponsible and stupid that I’m unaware of what the consequences are. From sex to how it feels to be heart broken..which I never dealt with and hoping to not ever. I do know that I have to get to know him still over the next month or even year, but it shouldn’t take that long to understand him fully and it’s like they’re punishing me for not listening to them so they’ll keep saying the same old thing over and over. It’s like eyecandy, I can’t control it and my feelings, my folks have only two kids (me and my brother) They are way over their heads pretty much all the time. Though I do tell them how I feel, they don’t get the hint, they probably want me to be single so I don’t have them worrying about me 24/7. I just hate to say it, I hope I don’t have to deal with this in the next few years…I don’t want anything to do with them..it’s painful.>.<

My parents were telling me the same thing, AFTER I had been with my boyfriend for over four years. We began dating at 16 and still are dating, randomnlhy they noticed how serious we were getting and began telling me to play the field. What they meant is date a few guys, get a feel of what you like and what is good and compatible with you and this does not necessarily mean sex at all (because holy hell my parents are against me having sex… ever) and not just settle for the first guy you date. I do understand how you feel with your parents telling you these things. I do understand that you feel you are an adult but remember, in their eyes, you ARE still their child and compared to them, you are less experienced in life than they are. In the end, they care about you. Regarding what you CAN do, most that you can do ist alk to them. Explain to them you understand the consequences, and that you are an adult who knows how to make choices and that you would appreciate it if they would back off a little, in an adult-like manner. Hope that they will understand and stop trying to interfere. If they don’t there’s not much you can do besides having to hear what they say.

I just keep hearing playin the feild type stuff an dont get how any responsable parent can promote this…I really do think that any young girl should have one boyfriend or as few as possible until they are a women…for some that maybe 18 but for most its about 20 I reckon…If young and playin the field then there hearts will get broken,they may just get a bad guy who just wants them for sex…err…one guy might be a drugggie,another selfish,another abusive or a bully…best to stick with what you know until you have all the options of a fully grown women…IMO..

I suppose that really covers everything I’ve been hearing from both my parents. I did have a talk with them, but it broke out with an emotional action from myself because she is teasing with me about a lot of things and I take it seriously. I’m not used to having him so close and I’m very protective but at the same time..kind of jealous because I’m not his first and he’s been with many. As for me, pfft I had no boy until now and sticking with him until the end. Yet with my parents…they said “we have to be nosy”, not on everything though..they don’t want me to get hurt which is the point and therefore they think I don’t have the responsible decision to do anything further. Meaning, playing the field I should try with other guys, but it’s not how they raised me as they always said, yet they try to make me not so close with him? We are very close friends, not entirely companions to be living together yet but I know the options I need to sort out. Though thank you for your support of this comment, it’s really appreciative ^-^ :)

Yea I understand that. They raised you not to be promisuous yet they don’t want you getting lcose to the one guy. It’s exactly like my situation, they don’t want you to settle for the first guy you go out with and get hurt. It does suck being an adult and having your parents interfere. Perhaps, if your parents get the chance to get to know him they might be more accepting of him and you together? It definitely helped in my situation.