Worried about relationship between my inlaws house & parents house

Are you actually officially married at 13? Well, it’s going to be a long time until your body is ready for a child, so I don’t think you should worry about that so soon.

I don’t understand why your parents would match you with a guy with parents that they’re not comfortable being with. However, I think your Dad just doesn’t like being around a lot of people - it might seem like too much hassle for him and he’s not the type of person who likes to entertain guests. If he were to have small meetings with just a couple of your husband’s relatives or parents, I don’t think your Dad will mind, and he will be treated as a guest in their house, so he doesn’t have to worry about entertaining anyone.

If you really want your relationship to work, you have to find out who is uncomfortable with what, and try to come up with compromises. I know it’s hard being in a relationship and your parents are involved, but since you are still young, you need your family to get by.

Talk to your dad and see what really bothers him. Tell him that he should go around your hubby’s house with your mother a few times at least, if only just for a quick visit. That’s a compromise that he can probably make. Talk to your boyfriend and come up with compromises with him too.