Would you rather have your parents not care about you at all, or care about you to the point that it's suffocating?

Not care about me at all. I have experienced both. My mother suffocated me and my dad just didnt care in the least bit way and i liked having him not care. I have always been independent and responsible so i dont get in trouble and find solutions to my own problems. I really dont need someone to care for me and my mom takes away all my privacy, and is constantly prodding me for information and it hurts me and it hurts me to see her get hurt cause she cares. Ill pick not being cared about any day.

Care about me to the point it’s suffocating. I know what’s its like to have parents that don’t give a f* and it’s not that great..

I hate when people get in my face about my life .. And I also like having freedom and stuff .. But then again I’m used to haveing parents not really care what’s going on .. I guess that’s a very difficult thing to decide ! I guess I’d say not care ,because I really enjoy having the freedoms that I do , and I hate being suffocated >.< I mean it’s not like I wouldn’t want then to care , I just hate it when parents ask personal questions and wanting to know you inside and out . I like to just be myself , and it also kinda prepares for the real world and that way I already have an idea how to tale care of myself , even if it’s not entirely the same . Id like to have it somewhat suffocating and somewhat not carding at ll (:

I’d rather they suffocate me. Sure, I wouldn’t think so throughout my childhood or teens or even beginning of my adulthood, but I think in the end, say, on the brink of death, I will have been glad my parents care so much.

I would rather that they suffocate me. At least then I can fight back for freedom, you can’t exactly get someone who doesn’t care to care about you.

thats why you make friends to love and care for you

It’s not the same as parents though. I have tons of friends and if they get angry at me and call me names it hurts a lot less than when my mum and dad do. I’m learning not to care though :| I’m not gonna be the kicked puppy that keeps coming back to it’s evil master >.>

Hey you are too small now lady, Think positive, If you ever go againt the parents you will not be happy.This is rights of your parents to ask every thing personal because they know about life more than you.Its also your rite to get freedom but be in a limit.Because if there is any problem happents with you, your parents have to face it first, and they dont want to take their child in a wrong way.Just think of it.You shall go in a right track,instead of going wrong.Hope you better understand.

Though they are both extremes and both are equally as bad…. personally I’d choose to have them not care about me. There I am still free to make my own decisions and develop and become who I want to be…. as opposed for under strict care where you have no room to experience life and therefore when you are outside of parent’s protection they don’t know how to handle themselves. You can’t grow and you will be forced to become like your parents or revolt from them entirely. I can’t say from experience because my mom cared but also let me make my own decisions and reap in the consequences.

Wow that’s a tough question… But I think I would go with the suffocating me cause you can still push back to get some space, as to not caring at all. Some kids do everything to get their parents to care and nothing works, and it’s sad being that lonely and other things can occur from that such as self worth, killing, cutting ect… At least suffocating you know you will always have your family to back you up and there for you.

I would pick the ones that over care 4 me than the ones that just don’t care. It hurts more to not be cared abt and be able to do watevr u want than to be suffocated and not be able to just do as u pls bcus they care abt u.. :D

tough call, atimes yeah atimes no but yeah, i’d rather have them care about me to the point that it suffocates

I moved away from an exaggerating mom… it was not really suffocating , But I absolutely needed my own space.

I’ll say that if I could turn back time… … and be a child again, then the suffocate-you-with-love parents are better. Because as a child you depend on them.

For a teenager of, let’s say 16+ or a young adult, the not-caring-at-all parents are better. Because you can take care of yourself.

Good, its about time you stop doing that…You so deserve better…:( Parents that cant find time to spend with their kids, dont deserve to have them! If you are married to your work then dont have kids…it’s just wrong…plainly unfair…I would do anything to have a child to nurture it, teach it, spend quality time with a child…I guess it is because I never had that either! Just loved it when my parents decided to be my parents again at 15…in my mind I was like woo, nice to see ya care again…NOT! I was much happier with them out of my life…had no one to answer to or have to hear their b!tching about one thing or another…Funny how today they try to convince themselves that they were such awesome parents…shoving money or gifts into your face…like as if you even cared anymore. Sorry but materialistic sh!t dont mean a damn thing…its what’s inside…quality not quantity!

To the point it would suffocating, in fact, my parents are like that.