my children need a foundation... what do I do??

You might want to look into a unitarian universalist church. They are very community oriented without all the dogma of most organized religion. In fact it is barely a religion in the traditional sense at all, as they welcome everyone, even athiests. My sister-in-law and her husband are both athiest, and they are very involved in their congregation.

There are non denominational christian churches that might work for you. I belong to one (im not a christian) and it works great for me. Just need to find the right fit…

Just remember that we as imperfect human beings can only find our perfect fit by us conforming to God’s will and not the other way around. Its hard, I know, however you can do it. You may be wondering if I am a mormon or not, and I am. But I have grown up going to school at a catholic middle and high school, and served my mission in korea so I have gained a great respect for the teaching and lifestyles of other cultures/religions, even those not Christian. Both my parents are converts to the church and I have loved growing up in it. It has helped me so much to come closer to God in every way. If I could be so bold, try the Church one more time, when you are ready. And if in the end you find it still isnt for you, then let the Bishop of your ward area know, and he can make sure that you can be more comfortable!

throw a neighborhood BBQ to get to know the neighbors. as for the spiritual part maybe you should question why you don’t believe some of the teachings of the LDS church. Search, ponder, and prey. I’m sure you know that old shtick! Sometimes one of the best things we can do for ourselves is realize that just because we don’t like something doesn’t make it wrong. Best of luck to ya