Should I stay or move and escape my controlling Mom?

That is going to be entirely up to you. I think you should ask yourself that question…I mean parents are going to be controlling, that’s a fact. I am a National Honors Society student, good grades, same as you; I don’t drink, do drugs, or any of that, but my parents still treat me like I am a bad kid, and feel like I need to be locked up because I am inadequate to their standards, or that I am incapable of making proper decisions on my own. I’m not sure. Parents are just weird that way. Try talking to her and telling her that you are unhappy with the way that she treats you. It may or may not start a fight, but if she’s anything like my mother, she might take it the wrong way. Don’t fight, just CALMLY tell her your standpoint, and if she objects, then you decide what you want to do. Techniqually, you can’t move out until you are 18, because she can call the cops and have you sent to Juvenile Hall (yes, you are still considered a juvenile), so don’t run away. Just suck it up for the next 2 months and then make your decision. Good Luck and I hope I helped

P.S. i’m not telling you what to do, just merely suggesting…

well im only 14 going on 15 so im not as old as u but im in a simalar dilema personaly i would say move out … mainly becuase i have come to belive that parents become control freaks hold on to you and are overprotective , most people think if you wait abit it stops, i however, due to my family being very close i know whats happend with my cuin who is 22 now , have come to belive that thats not true your parents never stop clinging on to you and will try t hold on and not let go for aslong as possible which is if you let them forever so id say go now becuase most likely anything that happens if you move out now will happen anytime you move out until your 30 odd so move out now egt it over and done with start living your life the way you see fit. but then thats just mad little me so its ur call still hope i helped

i think if you are ready then go ahead i can’t wait to move either except my problem is that i haven’t been able to find a job yet. i wish i could i am getting mad about it because i am 18 also and i need my own money too i am sick of having to worry about if my mom can give me money when i want or need it. i don’t even go out with friends anymore because i never have the money too so i am always stuck at the house

I think that this has to be your decision, I don’t think anyone can make it for you. If you follow the advice of someone that doesn’t know you, you could regret staying/moving out.

There are negatives and positives to both. Make sure it’s your decision, not mine, or anyone else’s. If you really can’t decide talk to a close friend or relative for there opinion.

This probably isn’t what you want to hear, but it’s what you need to hear.

I wish you luck with the desicion you choose.

i say stay at home.. your mom is over protective and is holding on to you and doesnt want to lose you your all she has. shes worried about you. At home you can make money and get food and sleep in a nice warm bed where as you have to work twice as hard when ur on your own. Your mom is probably older and you should spend as much time with her as you can. shes doing it for your good. Talk to her and tell her if she isnt going to let you live your life you will move out. tell her you want to be best friends with her but u cant if she holds you back from things you want to do. help her talk to her shes lonely she wants to spend time with you but all you want to do is break away from her as if shes your worst enemy because you want to live your life your 18 you have much life to live. make her happy that all! i hope i helped?

I also agree that this decision is yours. You seem like you have a good head on your shoulders. You may want to consider whether or not your mother would allow you back home should it not work out with your roommate.

Also..isn’t there anyway you can just get a job and be gone from home as much as possible?

My dad was overbearing and protective in an obsessive and sick way. I eventually went into foster care when I was 16 and let me tell you–it’s not easy out there in the big bad world. I had a girlfirend who was 18 and moved in with other girls and had a part time job. She made her ends meet and did actually quite well. So I have seen it done before and it worked out.

But I do always say try try to make it work at home if you can. Being in high school and supporting yourself…well… it sucks. Take on hobbies, work as much as you can, avoid your mother but be polite.

If all else fails, ask your mother what it is she wants from you to make her happy. At least see what she says and maybe you could cater to it somehow and suffer through another year with her.

Sorry, darlin. It’s almost over–you’ll be an adult soon. And isn’t making your own decisions a beautiful thing. But do try to make a decision that won’t hurt you worse than putting up with your mother’s silliness.

lol looks like we are in the same situation…I dont do anything bad and my parents still dont let me do anything at all! :(

I know how you feel.