Is this ok 2 think?

The exact same thing is happening to me. (Except I dont get to see my dad instead of my mom.) But I think about that 2. All the time. I’m glad I’m not the only one! I hope it goes well for you guys.=)

my parents havent split up but I feel you have every right to be mad and yeah shes just trying to be nice and all that sh*t but I know if my dad married another woman I would be the same way towards her

I’m not quite sure why stepmom’s get all the blame when things go wrong, but for some reason we do. Yes, I’m a stepmom to 2 wonderfull boys. Starting out, they hated me because they thought that I was the reason their mom and dad would never get back together. I wasn’t the reason, their parents were, they hated each other. Sometimes though kids don’t understand that. Then they hated me because they thought their dad spent too much time with me. I’ll admit it, he did spend a lot of time with me, but their are some things you just can’t do with kids. Then they hated me because their father and I had a child together. That was a little harder to get past because they thought the new baby was taking their place. Years later, finally, we started to get along (by the way, I was never mean to them, I just tried to be someone that would always be there for them). Now, I’m not just someone who married their dad but I’m someone else who will do anything for them. And what child doesn’t need more people like that?

Going into a pre-made family is NOT easy. And when you never had kids you really have no idea how to treat them or what to do with them. Maybe having a teenage “daughter” is overwhelming for her and she doesn’t know how to handle it. Talk to her, tell her how you feel. Listen to what she says and try to understand. I’m not saying not to get mad at her, because you will, just to try.

All I’m saying is give her a chance, if she makes your dad happy she really can’t be all bad can she?

its normal its something 2 get use2

hope I helped

Be glad your Dad is happy and is in love - you were wrong to yell in her face and if you do the right thing you’ll apologize - if you felt better by that, there’s something wrong - I would write a letter and spell it all out, like above, and see if mutual respect can be gained…I wish you the best !!

Stepparents that are stepping into a new family with preteen or teens should not step in and try discipline them and pretend the children are going to love them and be ok with them yelling and telling them what to do.

That is the role of the biological father of mother. It should be made clear from the start. It will only cause problems.

Only in extreme circumstances where the kids may be about to hurt themselves should a stepparent tell a stepchild no to do something.

A stepparent is more like a teacher at school or a babysitter that will relay any bad behaviour to the biological parent to deal with..

It is sad but the stepparent should wait to get accepted by the kids and not just step in and start setting rules. That is the price they have to pay. They just need to act polite, suck it up and hope someday the kids may accept them. Anything more will cause more pain to an allready unbearable situation for the kids.

You have every right to feel this way.

Yes, many adults or current step-moms will disagree, but you just have to face the facts.