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do you think its my fault? I need help.

is it my fault my dad went to jail? im 13 and I started seeing him again when I was 11. before that I hadnt seen him sence I was 2. but for 1 of the 2 years he was in jail for not going to the half-time-house [he had to go there cause he had been in jail before. hopefully you know what a half-time-house is] So enstead of going there he left with his girlfried and didnt tell where they where they went. this was on my birthday. 2 weeks later they caught him for driving over speed limit and found out who he was. so my dad went to jail for a year but when my dad was talking to my mom about seeing me again my mom said, “As long as youloveher you will stay out of jail.” and he said, “ok” does he not love me then? was it my fault?

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Answer #1

This is not youre fault at all. And if you’re dad dud bame you then its pathetic as how can you blame youre 13 year old child when she wasnt even there. It was him who drank that alcohol to get him over the limit. It’s not youre fault AT ALL. Youre dada’s a fully grown man and respensible for his own actions all the time.

We dont know whether he loves you but I’m sure he does. Youre his daughter. If you want to sort things out you could try ringing him or visiting him although this could be quite stressfull and not a very nice experience at your age. Its youre desicion but speaking on the phone is what I would recomend. No mateer what hapens you always have your mum to look after you and to care for you.

good luck x

Answer #2

Not your fault at all - he is responsible for his own actions - He, I say again, He made the poor decision of considering himself only (me, me) - it was just that: a poor decision and certainly doesn’t mean that inside he doesn’t love you, of course he does - wants to see you again, right ? - be patient, he knows he messed up and he’ll come around I’m sure…keep your head up high, good attitude, and that smile working…this too will pass !!

Answer #3

this is not your fault, he is the adult and he knew what the consiquince’s were. He brought all of this on himself, the unfortunate thing is you have to hurt because of his mistakes, you are the victim here. NOT HIM.

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