How to tell my Mom I'm pregnant and keeping it?

when i was your age i had a pet rabbit and after 7 months of having it , the poor thing died. Why you ask??? because i was so wrapped up in my life and not taking care of it of i killed the poor thing. Do you realize that your social life is gone when you have a child. its not stop working and giving all your attention to that child. your still in high school. and like darkwolfgirl says Oh just get your GED. yea well its not that easy. And plus doesnt look as good. and it costs money. everything in life is not free. and right now your in school which is free, im sure you live with your parents who dont make you pay rent or any other bills which again is free. im sure you have a cell phone you dont pay for and i doubt you have a job. so think about it. can you really raise a child when you are still just a child yourself???If you think your old enough to have sex then should should have been smart enough to use protection. good luck

You should just go ahead and tell her I’m 17 and I’m on my second preagnacy my lil girl its just 2yrs old its hard but you’ll be able to handle it… I mean like they say: You thought you were old enough to have unprotected you’re old enough to take care of that kid

just tell her that your pregnant!!!

besides that is her grandchild!!

she will just get mad because she cant accept the truth!!

but time heals!!

just gather all your strength and tell her!!

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I am only 15 also and my mother would FLIP OUT if she knew I was going to have a baby.

I rest my case.

This is exactly why teenagers with their silly little brains shouldn’t give advice to their peers. When a blind man leads another blind man, they will both fall flat on their face.

just tell her about it

make sure she knows there is no way your goin to get rid of it

and make sure she knows that it is u who looks after it not her

tell her what a wonderful job she did rasing you and that she will be an amazing grandmother

message me on how it goes :D

ok I am going through the same thing no one knows but me and him I am going to wait till it starts to show then when she ask tell the truth and if you want ta talk e mail me at emochick2417@aol.com kk talk to ya soon

well .. if you’re going to keep it, you’re in for a rude awakening. having a baby so young & still in high school is no easy task, especially with your whopping 3 month relationship (do you not know about birth control?!).

but talk to your mom about it. that’s what moms are for. & you honestly can’t blame her for being upset over her 15 year old daughter being pregnant?

everything will work out .. after awhile.

I honestly think that although this “Xiigazg” person makes logical remarks you are over reactting…

True most 15year olds are in school…and girl if you are my best advice to you is go and get a G.E.D. it is not hard to get at all and a lot faster then finishing high school..the test it self i thought was really easy but then again i have done a lot of home schooling…and i only took the test to go to college sooner…not to have a child.

You had sex…before marriage and two weeks into your relationship with this guy…well I would say that that it self was not a wis choice…but nothing you can do about it now..futrue reference though there are many types of birth control and guess what in the USA they are FREE…I AM NOT SAYING UNDERAGE SEX IS GOOD NOT NOR THAT SEX BEFORE THE SECRUITY OF MARRIAGE IS SMART BUT THERE IS BIRTH CONTROL IF YOU ARE GOING TO DO IT… just remember that…oh and if you choose to go the route via condoms and the guy wont where it then just tell him you will not sleep with him and watch how fast he’ll change his mind.

Next…well kids…lol…they are more work then you can really comprehend right now..I do not have any of my own but being the oldest and a baby sitter…I have a better idea as to what you have gotten your self into…18 years ( at least) of…being responsible for some one else…haveing to take care of their EVERY need and desire…a baby relies entirely on it’s mother to survive the first ten years or so and then even at ten years old kids still need their parents even at 15 years old..think about ALL that your mother and father do for you…write a list and you will find that it goes on and on…from this point you have llived a life entirely to your self while your parents ahve been for you…are you sure you are ready to take on that role in life…there is a reason God made women to be mothers you know…a men could never live though the pain of child birth for one..women just handle long amounts of pain better and God made us this way we are desighned to bear childern and then our emotional mind set it totally different from a mens…but chid birth is not easy you tear you know that right…your vagina ripps in child birth…actually they cut it to cause less trama and stress to your body… i am not trying to scare you nor freak you out i just wont you to know the truth…it is an amazing thing to have a child and be a mother…every one I have ever met says that once you hold your baby in your arms and see him or her for the first time you forget about the pain and it becomes worth it…it is amazing to create life and then watch your child a part of you grow and be there…but there is a time and plavce for everything…you need to think of the better interest of this baby and not just you..your life is important to but so is the child…don’t be selfish…ok.

SO YOU KNOW ALTHOUGH YOU ARE STILL A MINOR AND YOUR PRENTS STILL HAVE LEGAL RIGHT OVER YOU KNOW ONE CAN MAKE YOU HAVE AN ABORTION NOR GIVE THE CHILD UP FOR ADOPTION NO ONE CAN MAKE YOU DO THAT ALSO ALL RIGHTS OF THE CHILD YOU ARE CARING ARE YOURS AND NOT YOUR MOTHERS OR FATHERS…THE LIFE IN YOU IS YOURS…AND AS THE MOTHER YOU HAVE RIGHTS EVEN THOUGH YOU ARE UNDER 18…YEARS OLD…I THOUGHT IT VERY IMPORTANT YOU KNOW THIS…DON’T LET ANY ONE TELL YOU TO DO SOMETHING YOU DO NOT WONT TO DO.

I am a Christian and so I am against abortion..the bibie clearly say that childern are a gift from God…and the life in you just as your was created by and is Gods. ( at least what i believe) By the way if you are saved you not going to hell…

…Life is not easy trust me on this…I had to grow up really fast and Xiigazg is right about a few things…taking care of your self is ummm…how should I put it…it can be a challenge at times but honestly it is not all that hard…depending on the cercumstances…I live in Kauai…so it cost a lot more to live here on your own then most places…Oahu was easyer but i like it better here…none the less taking care of your self and being independant is some thing few 15year ollds can do I am not saying that it can not be done I kow it can..but it is a lot harder then if you where say my age seventeen almost 18…there are labor laws…and then few places i know pay well and will hire a 15year old..they are offten unreliable…see I clean vacation house rentals and I make any where from $15 to $25 an hour… I do not think that you will find a job that will pay you more then minimum wage to start which in most states is not much at all…lets see I make about $2,400 A MONTH ( $600 a week at least) so I am making at least $2,400 if i only get the $15 an hour pay..working about 40 hours a week ( i work a lot) so rent is like $1,200 a month leaving $1,200 left, bills are like $250 a month…some times $300 so i get about $900 after that…gas is like $100 so $800 left food is like $200 some times $300 so like $600 left for whatever…I am lucky that my college is fully paid for an that right now I do not have to work such long hours and I have a place to live…but I am hoping that you can easily see how much cost of living is…being single and not with a child..$600 a month is less then a child will cost by the way…well if you breast feed you could maybe swing $600 but I am not to sure… I make good money though but I work a lot and hard too..on top of college…I wont a family one day but I know that right now I couldn’t be a mother and go to school and work..I would never get my PH.d. i wont to be a psychologist by the way…my point here is that you can’t have a job school and child…a job and child yes… a job and school barely…a job and live yeah…not likely to be very compfortable though…

I do not know the guy you are with but I am wondering how old he is…older I am almost hoping …it would make things easier maybe if he is..asumeing he does stick around a lot of guys don’t.

OH AND JUST TELL YOUR PARENTS THEY WILL BE MAD YEAH BUT THEY WILL HAVE TO GET OVER IT…

I am so happy for you. If you and this boy are in a LOVING relationship, then you should tell your mom asap! That way things can get settled and you can have the support of your mother when you have it, b/c i don’t think she is going to be very happy when she realizes that you are going to have a baby in like 2 weeks, lol. You need a plan, and if you are going to keep it, then you and the boy need to get jobs. I am only 15 also and my mother would FLIP OUT if she knew i was going to have a baby. Yes of course she would be mad, but she would love me none the less. You should really tell her sooner rather than later.

And Xiigazg, you are a b*h. I am sure she already knows what is coming up. You don’t need to remind her. And if you are so “amazed by the simple-mindedness of the rest of the responses”, then ps off and stop making comments. And you have NO right to say that “her mom probably didn’t do a wonderful job raising her”, b/c you don’t know her at all, so yeah… And your first comment was just plain RUDE! here let me refresh ur memory…

“””A three-month relationship and a baby is on the way. So… have you and your boyfriend thought about who gets to stay home while the other goes to school from 8 a.m. to 3 p.m. until he/she graduates? I doubt you could keep the baby. You can barely support yourself, let alone another human being. Babies are cute, but they are expensive and take a lot of time. You could go through with the pregnancy if you want, but you have to give it up for adoption. Next time, try to get a puppy instead.”

No one needs your cynical little remarks, but thanx. They could both still go to school. You can work that kind of stuff out with the school. They can send teachers over to her house and teach. Just b/c she is pregnant does not mean that she has to be stupid also. And don’t tell her what she HAS to do. You are not her mother so shut up. And the next time you comment on things like this, look deep down into ur chest for that cold, frost-bitten heart, which has apparently dropped down into ur feet.

DEUCES!

Wow, there are some great responses here…

I’m 20 and I have a 4 year old. I was also 15 when I got pregnant. My then boyfriend, now husband, and I had been together for only a month, we had been great friends before then. We are still together (5 years now) and actually just bought our first house. Both of us finished highschool, my husband works full time as a chef at a local restaurant, and I’m currently a sophomore in college. I felt so urged to post here because some of the responses here are just ignorant and stupid. Being young and pregnant is hard, but it’s not impossible to succeed in parenthood and in life at a young age. Think positive and think for the future. Also, ask for as much help as you need. There are a ton of great government programs to help women and children, use them.

As for your question, make sure your mom isn’t busy and in a mood to talk. Tell her you’re pregnant and make sure you have a plan. She’ll ask you lots of questions, so make sure that you have a general plan on how you will be able to get money and make sure your child is cared for at the same time. Something like “Mom, I have something to tell you… I just found out I’m pregnant. I’ve thought long and hard about this and I’ve decided I want to keep the baby. I really need your support right now.”

Good luck.

I agree with foreshadowingb, I was pregnant at 15, and my son is now 7 1/2 years old and is everything to me. I had “some” help with family, but very, very little. I married my son’s father and we have been together ever since. He has a great job, and we have had more children since. I am currently taking CNA classes and my husband has a wonderful job. Not everyone that has children young don’t take care of their responsibilities. I am ashamed of all the people on here lecturing these young girls instead of giving them some good advice. My advice is to find a moment when you feel is a good time to talk to your mom and just tell her. If she loves you, she will help you in any way she can, even though it is not what she wanted for you. And, just a reply to what someone said previously, they have programs for single/young moms to get their GED at no cost. Just to let everyone know… check things out before you run your mouth. And I hope all goes well with your pregnancy, please update and let us know how things are going.

I’m amazed by the simple-mindedness of the rest of the responses.

just tell her she will be mad at first but maybe she will accpeptit after awile…

She will accept that you’re pregnant, but doesn’t mean she won’t stop there. You are her child; she has a right to decide what you should or shouldn’t do.

make sure she knows there is no way your goin to get rid of it

That only proves how stubborn and stupid teenagers can be. Nothing new there.

and make sure she knows that it is u who looks after it not her

How exactly would she do this? By sending her baby to a daycare? Most fifteen-year-olds are still relying on their parents for food, clothes, and shelter. Most fifteen-year-olds also still go to school. You can’t drop out of school as a fifteen-year-old to take care of the baby you could’ve had later after you’re done with college and have a stable job - and preferably married. That’s just stupid.

tell her what a wonderful job she did rasing you and that she will be an amazing grandmother

She had sex with her boyfriend TWO WEEKS after they started dating. Then of course she had to get herself knocked up and now she wants to have a baby with her boyfriend of TWO MONTHS for no apparent reason. I’m sorry, but her mom probably didn’t do a wonderful job raising her.

I think u can compromise with both take good care of him

Um, no. A baby needs a 24-hour supervision. I also have to wonder how she would take good care of she can’t even take good care of herself.

Just tell her, she cant force you to get an abortion or give the baby up for adoption, it’s your choice. Legally, She can’t force you to abort the baby or give it up. She’ll probably flip, but there’s nothing she can do about it.

Just tell her, she cant force you to get an abortion or give the baby up for adoption, it’s your choice. Legally, She can’t force you to abort the baby or give it up. She’ll probably flip, but there’s nothing she can do about it.

i still agree with xiigzag…

I think that “Xiigazg” had the best reply here.. hahah Lmfao Good point proven

just tell her she will be mad at first but maybe she will accpeptit after awile…

A three-month relationship and a baby is on the way. So… have you and your boyfriend thought about who gets to stay home while the other goes to school from 8 a.m. to 3 p.m. until he/she graduates?

I doubt you could keep the baby. You can barely support yourself, let alone another human being. Babies are cute, but they are expensive and take a lot of time. You could go through with the pregnancy if you want, but you have to give it up for adoption.

Next time, try to get a puppy instead.

Being Pregnant at a young age is hard I am currently a mother at 17 with a 2 year old but I have a lot of help with my daughter so if you have or can get help with your baby you will be okay but it will still be hard no matter what but its always worth it so hope my advice helped im sorry I dont know what else to say at this time but Good luck with your baby Best of luck and keep updated I would like to know how you are doing and be of some advice to you…

another one bites the dust. congratulations. you have now ruined your childhood. I hope it was worth it.

Hey girl just tell your mother it wasn’t a good ides considering your age and stuff but its ok people make mistakes, also I think you have a lot of growing up to do and rasing that child will do the trick. Anyways, congratulations