Is it normal to hate my mum after all this has happened?

hey illchelsa,

I am not sure if HATE is the correct word. Maybe resentful or extremely upset might be better.

And I completely agree with you. Your mom should of been there to comfort you and help you get through this branch of your life. Especially being raped. You are 15 and you need your moms comfort. I understand that! ummm but maybe she herself doesn’t know HOW to deal with it! Maybe her being quiet about the whole “RAPE” was because she didn’t know how. Some people out there are still learning. I am sorry that your family treats you like that. its not right. But sometimes you have to let things go in one ear and out the other! words may hurt a lot… But you, yourself decide how much they hurt!

I saw on your profile that you are in love with some one who is a lot older then you. 39?? ummm Are yo sure it is love??? maybe you are looking for that paternal love you haven’t received… Just be careful because unfortunately to say… relationships that have that much in age difference (15 and 39) I don’t think work out very well. I mean maybe if you were older I can see it going on. But you are still young and have a lot of different emotions and hormones going on so … just be careful ok?

take care …

wow I am extremely sorry. your mom needs 2 show you that she cares about you and stuff. you have been raped and you take all this crap from your family. I dont blame you at all but at some point, either you gotta sit down with her or something because it will be waaay 2 hard 2 continue living like this

thats f**ked up…if that was me I would run away,but I am not suggesting that. you should tell your mom how you feel and tell her it is important and if she dont listen tell her that she is not a good mom or something that would hurt her but not so so much that she will do something stupid..

then my mum has the cheek to say that I dont hve a bad life I hate her. I did tell her id turn against her sometimes I feel sorry for her because I been so bad some days but thats because im hurt an hve no one to chat to only my boyfriend and even I cant chat to him sometimes ya no . when im old enough to move out im washing my hannds . shes a sico freak letting another sico freak stay iin the house but in a way I still love her but I want to see how much she loves me atm it feels like she dont because the hings she lets people say to me an she doesnt comfort me when I stave my self for days when friends and family call me fat!!

Simply a Rose to brighten your day,         And maybe lessen the cares in your way;         And also, too, to help you to know,         That in knowing you, many others grow!

  Chelsea,

I can understand your pain and frustration with your mother. However, consider the possibility that, because of the paths that she has taken in her life, she may be incapable of being and doing other than as she does.

It is easy for us to condemn someone else’s actions, but just remember, we haven’t walked in their shoes.

I know you have just cause to be depressed a lot and have a lot of negative emotions. I hope you will come to understand that you have much value to contribute to this world and to the people in it.

I don’t know if you are anorexic like Gracie (I hope she is getting better). I hope not but I do realize that eating disorders often go hand in hand with depression.

  You are at an age where hormones, emotions and even your brain are undergoing strong changes. It is natural to occasionally feel confused or depressed.

The best thing you can do is to talk to a counselor or therapist. Barring that, find someone you can communicate your emotions and thoughts with, sort of like a sounding board. Keeping your thoughts to yourself doesn’t help. If you can’t find someone around you then consider Fun Mailing someone on Fun Advice.

Check out the link below for information on teen depression.

Information on teen depression:

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/depression_teen_teenagers.htm

   If you are having problems or are depressed, below is a site that may help you:

Worldwide:

Check out the Befrienders link below. They are not only a suicide hotline but also offer help to people who are stressed or are in a state of depression.

http://www.befrienders.org/support/helplines.asp

She’s the only mother you’ll ever have - try to understand from her side / her pressures - be nice to one another…I wish you every happiness !!

im not being horrible but can people shut up saying im confused!!

BEING A GOOD MUM ISNT JUST ABOUT PUTTING CLOTHES ON THEM!!!

I no she my mum but she a stupid sico freak and she doesn tlove me if she did ew why ddid she let the guy who raped me stay in the house??

I agree, that was a TERRIBLE decision which one day she’ll have to answer for - God can turn what was meant for evil into good - you’re in my thoughts and prayers.

my mom is the same way. I figured out that it’s because she cant handle stress and social situations. so when I’m crying about something that has happened to me, she doesn’t come over and give me a hug…she leaves the room which makes me feel all alone. whenever big problems do come I get yelled at because my mom cannot figure out a way to help fix things..it’s like her brain doesn’t work in certain ways. it can be very destructive towards me and I hate it.

one of the things I’ve learned is that I have to take care of me, and I will do it better than she ever could. I’m not going to let her get me down. we don’t have that great of a relationship because I know that a relationship with her will only bring me down. hang in there, and take her lightly. honestly, I have to think of my mom as being a little 12 year old of no consequence to me.