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How to regain your parents trust?

In 2007 I was going through a really bad depression and it got to the point where I kept wishing something bad would happen to me and then I drank several of my depression pills all at once hoping they would hurt me because I didn’t have the guts to do anything worse but nothing bad happened. My parents then decided to bring me home and go to university living at home. After a few months I did it again with other pills and my mom saw how they bothered me that night in the hospital and it really hurt her why I would do it again so both my parents stopped trusting me and beleiving in me. However, time has passed by and they see me all the time I think they can see I am fine and I myself feel there was no point in doing it and no matter how low I feel I will never do it again so why can’t they start trusting me? The day they start to trust me will be the days that I get my driver’s license which the test is coming up next month and the day I graduate from university (in 2 years)? Then I will be free from the trap I am in? because that’s how I feel, I’m in the trap surrounded by the 2 of them. They never used 2 be like this. I know I initiated it but they keep it going, because I know I have changed. How can they change and regain their trust before graduation? I feel like I’m doing 2 satisfy them and for their trust. Nothing is for me anymore. All is for TRUST

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Answer #1

I’m sorry, this must be really tough. Not only are you constantly reminded of a really hard time in your life, but also of how you hurt your parents and now you feel they cant rely on you to keep yourself safe. I honestly dont know if that ever goes away completely. My parents still worry about me a lot. But it does get better with time. You need to talk to them about how much stress they are putting on you. And how constantly watching you doesnt help. Because at the end of the day we cant keep an eye on anyone 24/7. And we cant stop everything bad from happening to our kids. No matter what we do. So we just gotta trust that they will make better decisions. But if that trust isnt coming with time, maybe it is time for a talk. Putting this type of pressure on you can almost seem like punishment. “Never do this again” type of thing. But they cant keep it up. You care about them, you realize how much you hurt them, but until they let go of that, you cant move on with your life… Talk to them…

Answer #2

The least you can do is keep trying to talk to your parents into it, im sure that your parents have atleast a little bit of faith in you… your parents aren’t just gonna give up like that. throw all your pills away and be a big shocker to your parents, that will make them believe you’ve changed. I think the parents have a different point of view in childeren, I don’t think they believe in that people changee. all you have to do is be strong, and keep that smile on your face, because self harm isn’t the answer. you shouldn’t try committing suicide, talk to you’re mom one to one. it’s the best I could say.

Answer #3

OMG..ITS NOT your FAULT STOP BLAMING URSELF.U SHUDNT B MADE FEAL GUILTY because you WER SO SICK you WANTD 2ENDYOUR PAIN.DAY SHUD TRY 2B MORE UNDRSTANDING.DONT DEPEND ON DEM 4SUPORT because U WONT GET IT THERE.BUT your GETTN BETTER NOW,CONSENTRATE ON your OWN LIFE AND BEING well AGEN,DATS D MOST GMP TING.THE REST WIL COME AFTA ,TRUST ME.when DAY C HOW you WER ABLE 2HELP URSELF AND B STRONG DAYL B PROUD.ID B ANYWAY.dont giv up on life eva eva eva and remembr how imp you r 2 dis wrl lol lol lol

Answer #4

well I know how you feel I live with my grandma and I was her angel she would always let me go out and do things and I would never lie but then when she found out one time that I lied to her she got so mad and started not trusting me and I would get so mad because sumtimes I would be telling the truth and she wouldnt believe me and I couldnt stand it then I reliazed that it happens you just have to keep doing whats right and sooner or later they will know that you are telling the truth in not hurting your self anymore

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