How NOT to be Transgender?

I’ve had thoughts about being a guy before, but only few. I figured I am happy enough as a girl to not go to all the trouble. I mean the surgery to physically change would be expensive and I don’t think I could put my friends and family through that kind of thing. I started thinking about it again because of 1 thing that happened. I emailed a picture of me and my cousin who is a GUY (to clarify) to show my sort of ‘email pen-pal friend’ what I looked like. I guess I liked how I looked in that picture and that’s why it wasn’t of just me. Well she replied like this:

omg this whole time I thought you were a girl! I didn’t know you were a guy wow you are hot!

and instead of correcting her and saying I was the girl in the picture. I just said thank you. And the f*cking scary part is that I was HAPPY she said that. Like not only was I a guy in her mind I was a hot guy and that is waaay more than I can comprehend right now. I actually want to be able to convince myself that I will be happy as I was physically born, I will be happy as a girl. Because I grew up all-girl and I’m used to that, and therefore there are many things about being a girl that I like. Like for example I can date straight guys. yay! Bonus for me! But there’s always something missing. And I know it would change everything if I became officially transgendered. I want to be happy as I am outside and inside. My parents barely understand my bisexuality. This would ruin everything. Help?

Answer #1

It’s a difficult situation, but you have to remember one thing - you’re the one who has to live with yourself.

If you’re not happy being what you are, then perhaps you do need to make the changes that will satisfy you.

The only problem is the effect it will have on those around you. You can have the change done, at the risk of their disgrace, or you can stay as you are and continue being unhappy. In the end, you need to figure out what is most important to you and do it - regardless of the circumstances.

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