How do I tell my mom I was Raped

Okay so this is hard for me to type…Um I was raped when I was 7 years old…And I never told my mother…I blocked it from my mind and just keep my mouth close…nothing about me changed or anthing becoz I didn’t what to tell anybody becoz the guy who raped me told me he would kill my mother if I ever told…But Now I started having dreams about what happened to me and Im headed for a meltdown if I dont tell someone How do I tell my mom I’ve been crying everday…she askes me whats wrong I try to tell her but I can never get the words out…I hate that these bad thoughts are coming backk Any advice on how to tell my mom?

Answer #1

Whoever says ‘do this, it’ll go over easily’ hasn’t ever told their parents they were raped. Telling your mother straight up is a good idea, but it’s very hard to do. It’s hard telling ANYBODY. I myself was raped a year ago monday! It’s difficult, and it hurts, but try telling her either face to face, via text, or over the phone. Don’t write it down because she’s going to want to ask you questions. And don’t EVER tell anyone else to tell her. I can guarantee that she’ll be angry, confused, and sad, and it’s gonna be hard to talk about what happened, and nothing can make it not be awkward. But once you open up to her and she knows what happened, you will feel so much better. Also, if this happened when you were seven, the police won’t really be able to do anything about it because there is no physical proof. I’m so sorry that this happened to you and I hope that asshole burns in the 7th circle of Hell! I hope you will heal fast and move forward with life. ~Bria

Answer #2

you should tell her, then go to the police.

Answer #3

tell your mom in a christmas card that way it will blow over easy.

Answer #4

omq you should just pray to god about it .. and he will give you the courage to tell your mom by the way his name is JEHOVAH … look in any human bible ,,, it says it in psalms 83:18

Answer #5

just ask your mum if you can talk to her quietly and if you dont think you can say what happened and what is happening out loud then write it down and if you cant say it just give her the paper so she can read it and now whats happening, cus telling your mum will help you cus shes there for you. She cares about you. Hope this helps and good luck xxx

Answer #6

I think you should go to the police because its quicker than waiting for your mum to go to the police once you told her because she will be shocked. but im so sorry for you and best of luck x

Answer #7

thats not going to help her rally is it, (the answer above)!!!

Just sit down with her and explain slowly, it will be hard. But she can help you and comfort you.

Good luck chick xx

Answer #8

Yah I get how your feeling in a way. I would text or call or email to first tell her because that would be a lot less akward. I know that it is hard to tell people but you will feel a lot better when you do. If the police do their job then they will have the person who did that to you put in jail before that person even knows that you did tell. Your mom needs to know this but let her know that it is not her fault for not seeing it.

Answer #9

just be straight up and tell er you need to talk about somehting serious you wont really WANT to tell her but you feel like you HAVE to

that is how I felt I wanted no one to know when that happend to me but you have to just comeout with it and just start about taliking about what happend because it isnt your fault and your mother has the right to know and you probobly do want her to know

but it can be an akward conversation

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