How do I deal with my boyfriend's daughter's manipulative behavior?

when he ask her what she wants to do,YOU make a suggestion.like if he says”where do you want to go” you dont wait for her to answer you say somethinglike,”I think we should go to [insert local food place here]” fight fire with fire.even with a 4 year old. hope this helps

uve gotta talk to your boyfriend about this. tell him what is going on and how its affecting your relationship. if he really cares then he will try to set up a compromise between you and his daughter.

I didn’t have to read all of what you said… But all little girls seem to be attached to her father.. She gets his attention so she knows he is still there for her.. Her real mother probably treated her like crap.. Yelled at her, Did not pay attention.. ETC… Of course I don’t wanna offend anyone if I’m wrong about her Biological mother.. It was just my guess… I have a little sister though that is four, and my other little sister is three.. The four year old is always attached to her Dad, which in this case is my step father.. Yet both the three year old and four year old girls are very attached to myself as their brother.. In conclusion she just seeks for attention, and is so stuck on dad because she feels that he is the only one there for her that’s left..

You gatta understand that she is yung and that she just meaby feels bad about all this, she may be feeling that you are going to take away her dad from her, Just let her be and when the times keeps going on she will see how everything is going on she will understand the whole concept… She just dosent want to loose her dad and wants to hvae him whit him too.

Has he not given much attencion to her or something?

GOOD LUCK:)

Hmmm, she is a child of a broken relationship. Do you give her any attention that’s positive? At all. She sounds insecure like maybe she thinks you took her dad from her mum, she may be telling tales to mum so that mum tells dad, and dad kicks you. She wants mum and dad to be together. My sister did all of that stuff when my parents split. It drove everyone nuts. she needs to be sat down and told that she should respect you, and asked why she thinks mum and dad are not together, and reassured.

He gives her a lot of attention and that’s what she is used to, if she isn’t getting his attention, she will find a way to get it. It just irratates me because she’s always done it for as long as I can remember and he just feeds into it.

Well, if he’s not with you on it then there’s nothing you can really do. It’s his daughter and she will only listen to him. If he doesn’t stop it no one will be able to.

I am going through the same thing with my boyfriend and his daughter…only I havent met her yet but when she know he is with me she tries to cry and make scenes to make him bring her with him or change his plans and make it all about her. I actually told him that I would’ve disliked him bringing her today as he agreed that 1 weekend would be with me and the other with his daughter with no interruptions. ideally if the man is intelligent you can talk to him about it and he will understand and try to make other arrangement but generrally they just want their daughters to love them as they are not the ones who punish them and educate them as the biological mothers do so they let them run wild!!!

try what am going to do…

leave them on their own when they are together and you make other plans…

then when you have him to yourself enjoy it and forget the kid.

in an ideal world people with kids would get with other people with kids… and singles with other singles!!!